When I was younger I faced a time period where I couldn’t get an erection with a new lover.

It was embarrassing; I failed to get hard time after time… she was so fine, and my erection was working just fine with my last girl!

I thought I had developed a physical problem, thought I might have been one of the youngest men to get erectile dysfunction, but in the end it was all in my mind.

I’ve learned a technique or two and some better understanding of the sexual anxiety in order to completely overcome this problem and get erections on command.

I hear the same story over and over about men struggling with sexual performance anxiety and unable to get an erection with their lovers, and they are always freaking out thinking they’re doomed…just like I was.

Check out this e-mail I got this morning:

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“Dear Mister manpower:

My performance anxiety is really taking a great toll on my manhood. This problem of mine has grown and is now affecting my everyday life.

My partner has openly admitted that my performance problem is greatly bothering her, and this has destroyed me. I have never felt so unmasculine in my life.

I have tried many things such as Horny goat weed, restraining from masturbation and so on. I just can’t seem to achieve a good quality erection when I’m around my partner. We have had sex before, but it is extremely rare and It all happens when I’m awake in the morning hours.

I am in great fear of losing this woman. Here’s an example of what’s going on with our IM conversations:

Myself:Yeah, and we’ll do other things
Her:hahahahahaha
Her: u cant fuck
Myself: Lol, what am i a priest?
Myself: sure i can
Her: nope, u have problems like 85% of the time
Myself: Not even
Her: really?
Her: u sure?
Myself: positive
Her: i’m not
Myself: thats becasue your a negative nancy
Her: dude, u know im talking the truth

More Info, I’m 21 years of age and In good shape; my partner is 23 years old and attractive.

I fear my experience will greatly affect my future relationships, any further advice would be greatly appreciated.”

Sincerely,

Brian

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Hello Brian:

You are freaking out.  When you freak out you are constantly in an anxious state.  When in an anxious state you cannot get an erection.

Fear, doubt and worry get in the way of achieving a complete erection.  Trying to “test” your erection will have the opposite effect; no erection.

The problem with sexual performance anxiety and losing your erection right before sex is that it can become a vicious circle.

You fail to get a complete erection for the first time.  Up until now you never even thought about your erection, you just got hard.

Now you can’t get hard.  You try to mentally “will” your erection and make yourself get hard… but it has the opposite effect; your erection completely disappears and now your stuck with a completely flaccid penis, and a disappointed/frustrated/confused/ and/or worried partner.

I can assure you, this is all in your mind.  You do not have erectile dysfunction.  Here, check this out:

• Naturally Overcome Erectile Dysfunction, Sexual Performance Anxiety and Strengthen your Erections

Have a good one!

-David Carreras aka Mr. Manpower
The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men; Male Potency without Drugs
mistermanpower@yahoo.com

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As men, most of us have had a time where we couldn’t get an erection during sex, and we couldn’t figure out why…

If we freaked out over not achieving an erection, then we start thinking something is wrong with our “machinery”, and feel we may have erectile dysfunction.

This freaking out, called sexual performance anxiety, happens to most men, especially when they first start out having sex… therefore it usually happens to young men.

Sexual performance anxiety can be present, and you can still achieve an erection, however, in most cases, performance anxiety will prevent you from even beginning to get an erection.

You might start playing around with your penis in an attempt for it to get hard, and it just shrivels up and gets farther and farther from an erection… I’ve been there, and I know how to overcome this “mental erectile dysfunction”.

I received some questions from a young man named Omar which helped illustrate some main points on sexual performance anxiety… please see below

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“hello

i was reading on your site about sexual anxiety and i fell like you know exactly what im going through and been in my shoes.”

I most definitely have been… when I was 17 or 18 I went through the same issue with sexual anxiety, and a couple of more times after that.

“i am 21 and have had sex a couple of times in my life a good amount of the time it would be ok but the majority it would go horribly wronge. it would start by me touching the female and every thing is going good i have a erection and as soon as she reaches to pull down my pants i would go limp(and some times it would be erected i would stick it in and every thing seems all good but then she stares at me dead in the eyes and it would be a long auckwerd stare and i would go limp again)”

I’ve been there… I remember I’ve had a couple of girls reach down my pants, and my penis would just shrivel up and go numb…

“i really dont know what to do i fell really bad because the girl would laugh and i would really fell shity and when i see my guy freinds haveing sex all the time i would fell bad deep down. it got to the point were when i know im about to attempt to have sex i have butterfly’s in my stomack and fell like its dooms day.”

Doomsday… I would have the same feelings… it could become a vicious cycle… you fear that it’s doomsday, you go into the sexual experience with worries and anxiety, this fear and anxiety prevents you from getting an erection, and then it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy… it’s turned into a doomsday…

“i even stoped dealing with normall girls and resorted to prostitutes due to the fact they dont know me and if they laugh at me it wouldnt really hurt because i wouldnt see them ever again. i do masturbate alot about two times a day since i was 13 is this a factor”

Masturbating has no negative effect on your erections… unless you’ve been masturbating all day… generally the more times you ejaculate during the day, the harder it is to get another erection (that same day only; things recover after some sleep).

“this is really messin me up and on top of that i have all ways felt self conscius about my penis thinking it small when ever one of my guy freinds would be changeing in the locker room i would sneek a peack and its like every one has a biger dick than me (im 4 1/2 inches when im fully erected)”

I know of a man who was able to increase the size of his erection (with penis enlargement exercises) from 4 1/2 inches to nearly 7 inches… it is not very common, but it is possible.. AT LEAST, you should be able to get to 5 1/2 to 6 inches, which is well into the average range… for more information on the natural penis enlargement exercises, check this out…

-David
Mistermanpower.net

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Besides the mental tactics for overcoming sexual performance anxiety, erection strengthening exercises can help you create a harder erection that happens much faster… for more information on natural exercises for harder erections, click here…

For more resources on sexual performance anxiety, and how to overcome it, please see the articles below:

1. My early Sexual Performance Anxiety Experience…
2. How your Mental State affects your ability to achieve an Erection
3. How to Prevent Losing your Erection while putting on a Condom

Best regards,

David aka Mr. Manpower
The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men
mistermanpower@yahoo.com

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I remember when I was younger I had issues with sexual performance anxiety.

With a steady girlfriend, I was able to get erections without a problem, but with a new interest, I oftentimes had erectile difficulties.

There were serious worries of erectile dysfunction, but I was only like 17 when this happened to me.

I received this question today from a young man by the name of Casey.  I received a similar question every day from men all over the world, and case after case, I’ve fixed their “mental erectile dysfunction”.

Here’s the question from Casey, followed by some helpful links on how to overcome performance anxiety before and during sex.

Hey man,

I’m an 18 year old senior in high school and I have been having the same problem with sexual performance anxiety.

I have been dating this girl for a few months and we are madly in love with each other. The first time we tried to have sex, we were in the car off of a dirt road, and I didn’t even get an erection at all, not even during foreplay. She seemed to be sweet about it too, she told me that it was ok and she didn’t care because she loved me.

The next time, we were at my house, I was fluctuating between no erection and half an erection throughout the foreplay, I went to get a condom and see if my parents were asleep yet, when really I quickly looked at some porn to get a boner. It worked, when I returned to her, things went rather smoothly, I mean I didn’t have a full erection but it was good enough to have sex, and it was amazing, and this was of course my first time ever.

At this point, my ego wasn’t completely shot yet.

We tried again that next weekend and again no erection. She was still nice about it and told me she loved me. But now we have tried at least 6 or 7 times since then. And no such luck.

I have a full erection throughout entire foreplay, but everytime we mention sex, or I get it in my mind that we are about to do it, I lose my erection within seconds. At this point, she is getting disappointed, she thinks that I don’t want to have sex with her, but I seriously do, I mean she is the perfect example of sexy in my mind, she always has some dudes trying to hook up with her, (she is VERY faithful) so she is definitely sexy.

AND she has only had sex with one other dude, and the whole penis size thing doesnt scare me, I have a decent sized one. I just don’t know what to do, my self esteem is rapidly spiraling out of control, I need help before it is too late. Could you give me some exercizes to prepare me mentally? (because the physically is definitely there)

I just want to be able to satisfy my girlfriend AND myself, I don’t want to be stuck with my left hand forever. Could you please get back to me as soon as possible? I really want to stop it before it gets to the point where I can’t.

Thanks man,

Casey

My response:

Not a problem, Casey.  I’ve been there before.  In fact, I think the majority of men have gone through a time period like this.  Hopefully the information in the links below will be good enough to help you overcome your sexual performance anxiety.

Here they go:

• Exercises to Strengthen Erections, Overcome Sexual Performance Anxiety, and Increase Sex Drive…
• How your Mental State affects your ability to achieve an Erection
• My early Sexual Performance Anxiety Experience…

Best regards, Casey, and stay positive.  You’ll get over this performance anxiety in no time.

-David aka Mr. Manpower
The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men
mistermanpower@yahoo.com

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When I was younger, I always had a small flaccid penis.  I was what you would call a “grower”.  Contrary to a “show-er”, who could show off his flaccid penis, I would have to grow before I achieved a respectable size.

I used to have a small flaccid penis that poked out like a little Vienna sausage… it looked like it belonged on an 11 year old.

With some penis enlargement exercises, I’ve increased my erect length by over an inch, and my flaccid size has grown alongside it.

My flaccid penis now hangs lower, is heavier, and is thicker.  It is now much more like a Kielbasa than a Vienna sausage.

I know it’s hard to believe, but I got proof here.

On another note, I received a question a couple of days ago from a nice guy by the name of Trey.  He was inquiring on whether or not my penis enlargement exercises could help him increase the size of his flaccid penis.

He also has difficulty maintaining an erection while putting on a condom.  This comes from sexual performance anxiety.  I help out with that as well.

Check it out:

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“Hey Mr. Manpower:

Are the numbers you’re using referring to flaccid penises or erect? Because I’m not so much worried about my erect penis size as I am when it’s soft. When it’s hard it’s an alright size, about 5.5 to 6 inches,and pretty thick but when soft I can’t even let a girl look at it. When flaccid it’s an embarrassing 2 inches….then I get so worried about getting it hard, pulling it out, and wat shell think that the pressure causes me not to get hard at all. Which is pretty embarrassing and awkward.

I’ve also had trouble with getting hard then soon as I get ready to stick it in or put on the condom, I go soft again? Got any clue wat that’s all about? Is it just the anxiety affecting me or should I run to my doctor for E.D.?? I’m only 21! This shouldn’t be happening to me!!! Please help…..”

-Trey

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My Response:

“Hey Trey:

You sound a lot like me when I was younger.   These penis enlargement exercises increase the overall size of your penis, including your erect AND flaccid size.

Actually the first thing you’ll notice is an increase in the flaccid size of your penis.  When I was younger, I had the most embarrassing, childlike flaccid penis.  When I mean younger, I mean early 20’s already!

It looked like it hadn’t grown since I was 11.  My erection was around your size, but my flaccid size was embarrassingly small.  And yes, I also hated it when a woman would see or feel it before it was “prepared”.

Now my flaccid penis is heavy, hangs low, and overall, it’s pretty impressive looking.  I have no embarrassment pulling it out anytime and showing it to a woman (which I’ve actually done a couple of times ;).  I’m actually rather proud of it.

And my erect size has grown along with it with it (by over 1.25 inches so far).

As to the problems achieving an erection, I’m 99.9% sure that’s sexual performance anxiety.  A man your age shouldn’t have any erectile difficulties, other than mental ones.

I’ll teach you how to overcome your performance anxiety.  Check out my testimonials; look for the testimonial by Mike C. from Los Angeles.  I helped him overcome his performance anxiety and improve his relationship with his girl.

Part of it involves relaxing and enjoying the moment.  Know that the woman you are with is giving herself to you for enjoyment.  Sex was made for enjoyment (and procreation of course) and is not a test of your manhood.

Don’t put any pressure on the situation, and enjoy the arousing feelings as much as you can without even thinking about your erection.  Most likely your erection will come along on it’s own… don’t even think about it.

I have a surefire method to overcoming the mental blocks to your erection, as well as some erection exercises to reinforce the physical part.  Don’t forget, the guide is available for download here:

Download Mr. Manpower’s Guide to Overall Manhood Enhancement

You’ll be okay, my man.

Have a good one!”

-David aka Mr. Manpower
The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men

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In most cases, a first sexual encounter between two new partners is not that great.  Many times I have gotten with a new woman in my life, and our first few times having sex is more like getting to know what we really like and how we can best please each other.

Many times on my first encounter, I have not been able to make a woman orgasms.  However, after a few sessions, some communication, and some adjustments, we get coordinated and learn how to really get each other off. Then as time goes by, the sex generally gets better and better.

This should help you if you have sexual performance anxiety aka sexual anxiety…just understand that the first time doesn’t have to be incredible for her, because its not that great for most people. However, there are some exceptions…sometimes I just magically click with somebody and we have crazy, sex….but this is usually the exception and not the rule.

However, with my experience, I have a few more tools to work with now. Better erection quality due to my strengthening routine and libido enhancement techniques, a larger erection length and girth due to natural penis enlargement, an ability to last as long as I’d want due to the male multiple orgasm technique and my ejaculation control methods, as well as better knowledge on how to make her orgasm, along with incredible cunnilingus skills.

So while sex does get better as I get to know that person more, I do come into the playing field with an advantage.

I’ve written down all I know in my guide Mr. Manpower’s Guide to Overall Manhood Enhancement….its available for download here: The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men

Peace, love, and sexy time!

David aka Mr. Manpower

mistermanpower@yahoo.com

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