“Please David don’t cum…. please David don’t cum”… I would tell myself as my girl’s moaning of pleasure got louder… but without failure, my words of encouragement were never enough… I would always cum right before my girl would have an orgasm.
I felt like it was just a matter of time before my girl left me because of my inability to satisfy her, and just like I had predicted, she… well, left me.
Fast forward ten years into the future… I’m hitting the right spot, and my girl is moaning her ass off, but with a stronger mind, better ejaculation control, and a better understanding on how to make a woman orgasm (it’s all about the clitoris), I plow through to her second leg shaking orgasm in a row…
What’s changed since then?
Years of research on how to last longer in bed, years of practice, and a better all around understanding of the female orgasm.
I used to think that you had to go deeper to make a woman orgasm, or go harder, or last longer.
While the ability to control your arousal is very important, size and extreme lasting power are not a necessity to make a woman orgasm.
Like the Taoists say, sex is the “rosy battle”. You must take it serious, and know that you need to be satisfying your girl on a regular basis… not every time, but more often then not, you should be providing her with orgasms.
Sex is pleasurable, but should be taken seriously at the same time.
Building up concentration is important in order to last longer in bed and not blow your load while your lady’s scratching your back and moaning “keep going” in your ear.
Concentration is a skill that can be developed just like any other skill. Meditating on one single thing (called single pointed concentration), such as your breath, will help to develop your concentration… but you need to practice this on a regular basis.
This improved concentration will work very well to harness complete ejaculation control. You want to concentrate on keeping your arousal levels low, and while continuing to penetrate, you want to block out overly-arousing thoughts, and not allow outside influences (such as moaning) to knock you off course.
Age and experience, of course, add to your concentration abilities.
As to the physical ways to delay ejaculation, relaxing your pelvic and PC muscles also helps, and concentrating on stimulating the clit, rather than pounding away, will ensure that you bring your lady to orgasm faster, not needing to last extraordinarily long.
For more information on ejaculation control exercises & techniques, check this out:
Have a good one!
-David Carreras aka Mr. Manpower
Mr. Manpower’s Guide to
Overall Manhood Enhancement