{"id":13453,"date":"2021-11-05T22:49:04","date_gmt":"2021-11-05T22:49:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mistermanpower.net\/blog\/?p=13453"},"modified":"2021-11-05T23:02:38","modified_gmt":"2021-11-05T23:02:38","slug":"how-to-actually-last-longer-in-bed-real-solutions-for-premature-ejaculation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mistermanpower.net\/blog\/how-to-actually-last-longer-in-bed-real-solutions-for-premature-ejaculation.php","title":{"rendered":"How to Actually Last Longer in Bed: Real Solutions for Premature Ejaculation"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"How<\/a><\/p>\n

Premature ejaculation is often the punchline of a joke in TV shows and movies. When men can\u2019t last long in bed, or last less time than expected, it becomes shorthand for not being as manly as someone who can. Our culture has taught men to believe that premature ejaculation leads to women not feeling satisfied and men feeling frustrated and emasculated. Unfortunately, many times this is the outcome.<\/span><\/p>\n

There are a few things to keep in mind: premature ejaculation happens to everyone at some point, and pretty much any case of premature ejaculation can be fixed (ideally naturally \/ mentally, but if needed with medication). Happened to me for several years actually, until I got the problem under control.<\/span><\/p>\n

In this article, I\u2019ll explain some of the main causes of premature ejaculation, and some real solutions\u00a0that actually work<\/em> for those who suffer from PE.<\/span><\/p>\n

The Stats on Premature Ejaculation<\/span><\/h2>\n

It\u2019s tough in many instances to know what makes ejaculation \u201cpremature\u201d because every situation and every man is different. This also makes it difficult to figure out how prevalent PE is.<\/span><\/p>\n

For example, some men, due to the tightness of their muscles, their arousal levels, their partner\u2019s stimulation tactics, and more, may never last more than a minute or two during sex, despite having nothing actually wrong with them, and feel like everything is okay! For other men, an expectation to last a half hour in bed with full stimulation causes them to think they have a PE problem even if they last longer than average.<\/span><\/p>\n

As a basic rule, the <\/span>NCBI<\/span><\/a> (National Center for Biotechnology Information) defines the average time between the beginning of stimulation and ejaculation as 5-7 minutes, even though there are many perfectly healthy outliers that are shorter and longer than that. That\u2019s just the average. A study in <\/span>The Journal of Sexual Medicine <\/span><\/i>surveyed men whose partners used a stopwatch during sex and found that non-PE men lasted just over 7 minutes while men who reported suffering from PE lasted <\/span>less than 2 minutes<\/span><\/a>.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Many men may be unaware of the average when they report having premature ejaculation, which they might be defining based only on their expectations (or their partner\u2019s). According to <\/span>IJIR: Your Sexual Medicine Journal<\/span><\/i>, approximately <\/span>30% of men<\/span><\/a> report experiencing premature ejaculation, no matter how long they actually last in bed. This makes it the most common sexual dysfunction experienced by men.<\/span><\/p>\n

To make it simple, I believe you have premature ejaculation if you ejaculate before providing a woman with an orgasm\u2026 whether it\u2019s two minutes or half an hour.<\/span><\/p>\n

Causes of Premature Ejaculation<\/span><\/h2>\n

Regardless of how you define it, anyone who suffers from premature ejaculation reports it because it has caused them distress and they want to solve it. Some men have almost no control over their ejaculation at all. An <\/span>estimated 4%<\/span><\/a> have zero control over their ejaculation, which disrupts both their own pleasure and their partner\u2019s.<\/span><\/p>\n

Despite its prevalence, premature ejaculation does not have one single known cause. Some doctors believe that the nerve endings in the penis can be too sensitive, causing premature climax. Others suggest that hormone changes can affect the ability to last. Emotional and psychological factors of premature ejaculation have become much more common knowledge over the last few decades as well. Performance anxiety can cause muscles and nerves to tense up, leading to PE. This causes a vicious cycle where the fear of premature ejaculation can actually cause it to happen!<\/span><\/p>\n

A few instances of PE throughout a man\u2019s life are common and unavoidable. But when it happens often, many men seek help for this embarrassing condition. Hope to help provide some direction in those case.<\/span><\/p>\n

Solving Premature Ejaculation: A Natural, Personal Approach<\/strong><\/h2>\n

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Real solutions for premature ejaculation involve first figuring out what could be causing the problem for you. In some cases there will be more than one cause, so trying different things and adding to them to create a regimen will help you see results.<\/span><\/p>\n

The solutions to PE can be separated into several broad groups, which we will define as: desensitization, medicine, PC muscles, and the mind.<\/span><\/p>\n

Desensitization<\/span><\/h3>\n

The quickest and least invasive way to try to prevent premature ejaculation is to desensitize yourself before or during sex.<\/span><\/p>\n

Condoms can be a good place to start if you don\u2019t already use them. The layer between you and your partner can reduce sensitivity and prevent PE. Certain condoms in the Trojan and Durex Performax brands include numbing agents inside. These anesthetics, including lidocaine and benzocaine, can numb you long enough to have satisfying sex. And combined with proper penetrative techniques, contrary to popular belief, <\/span>condoms<\/span><\/a> can actually improve a woman\u2019s chances of having an orgasm!<\/span><\/p>\n

Alternatively, these anesthetics can be bought in creams or sprays from a drug store and used to safely delay ejaculation. Some are available with a prescription as well. Using them 15 minutes before sex can be one way to reduce sensitivity and last longer artificially.<\/span><\/p>\n

Be warned however that anesthetic sprays can have negative effects, such as loss of sensitivity for some time after sex, inability to know when you\u2019re erect and less enjoyable sex. You are spraying yourself with sensation-reducing chemicals after all, during an activity that\u2019s pretty much all about sensation. Your partner may experience loss of sensation as well should they come in contact with any of the chemicals.<\/span><\/p>\n

Medicine<\/span><\/h3>\n

In addition to sprays, oral medications can be prescribed to delay orgasm. The FDA has not officially approved any medication for PE, but studies have shown that antidepressants called selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs). SSRI\u2019s delay ejaculation, even with<\/span> on-demand use<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Additionally, medications traditionally used to treat erectile dysfunction like Viagra and Cialis may have applications for <\/span>treating PE as well<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Correcting a <\/span>B12 deficiency<\/span><\/a>, if present, has been shown to correct PE as well in many cases.<\/span><\/p>\n

PC Muscles<\/span><\/h3>\n

When men Google how to fix premature ejaculation, many sites offer them advice in the form of \u201ckegel exercises.\u201d The directions for these exercises (from the <\/span>Mayo Clinic<\/span><\/a>) read as follows:<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. Find your pelvic floor muscles by stopping a stream of urine. These muscles are your pelvic floor.<\/span><\/li>\n
  2. Tighten these muscles for 3 seconds then relax for 3-5 seconds by breathing into your belly. Do a few in a row when standing, lying down, walking, at your desk, or just before bed.<\/span><\/li>\n
  3. Focus on flexing the pelvic floor and not the abdomen or buttocks. Be sure to breathe regularly.<\/span><\/li>\n
  4. Repeat throughout the day – anywhere from 30 to 100 repetitions or more if you feel comfortable.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    The theory behind using kegels to prevent PE is sound \u2013 by making these muscles stronger, men can achieve more control over ejaculation. <\/span>And it works<\/span><\/a>. However, it\u2019s important to keep in mind <\/span>not<\/span><\/i> to kegel <\/span>during sex<\/span><\/i>, as this tightness and contraction can actually <\/span>lead<\/span><\/i> to premature ejaculation.<\/span><\/p>\n

    The <\/span>reverse <\/span><\/i>kegel is a much better option for men who want to regain ejaculatory control. It involves breathing deeply into your belly so that your stomach expands, and gently pushing the pelvic floor muscles out, rather than tightening them up, keeping you further from ejaculation.<\/span><\/p>\n

    Mind<\/span><\/h3>\n

    Lastly, <\/span>your mind<\/span><\/a> is one of the strongest \u201ccontrol centers\u201d in charge of your ability to delay ejaculation during sex (or finish too soon, if filled with anxiety, concern, or over-excitement).<\/span><\/p>\n

    Keeping your mind at ease, all throughout the sexual performance, and not allowing your arousal thoughts to skyrocket unattended helps. Meditation helps you gain better control over your thoughts.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

    Learning to control your mind during sex, while applying mental techniques, is one of your best bets.<\/span><\/p>\n

    How to Last Longer in Bed – More Advanced Techniques<\/strong><\/h2>\n

    This should be a good enough guide to get you started, at least adding on some time to your performance. Remember, you didn\u2019t ejaculate prematurely, if she had an orgasm. Stimulate her clitoris, before and during sex\u2026 that\u2019s key.<\/span><\/p>\n