I received this question today from a young man who is experiencing problems maintaining his erection while putting on the condom… this is due to sexual performance anxiety… I gave him a number of very powerful tips on how to overcome sexual anxiety below:

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(My answers are in bold)

Hi David,

I hope you don’t mind if I ask you a few questions.  I came across your article by google searching and appreciate your help with everyone.  I am a very down to earth guy- I’m getting my masters in a health related field, and love being with my girlfriend.

I am usually rock hard with her when we fool around, and she’s very tight so I need to be if we’re going to have sex.  Last night was the first time we tried and when I went to put on the condom, I lost the “rock hardedness.”  I tried still putting it in there because I figured once I got going, I’d get it back, but it wouldn’t go in and that just made me more nervous I guess…

“..that just made me more nervous”.. I know, I’ve been there, it can become a vicious cycle, and it’s called sexual performance anxiety.  You need to relax… I know easier said then done… a few things you’ll want to keep in mind:

• Take your time; enjoy the beautiful woman in front of you.
• On your own (when you have time, no one around, and you’re RELAXED), do this exercise: get hard, then let the erection subside… then get hard again… and then let it subside… and then get hard again… as many times as you want… this will show you that once you lose your erection, you can regain it 100%… the only thing keeping you from regaining your erection is the anxiety and worry that you won’t be able to get an erection.
• Take your time and get as horny as you can… if you like tits, suck on her nipples… if you like ass… rub her ass… do whatever REALLY turns YOU on… and do it as if nobody’s watching… wait till you get rock hard before you even think of getting the condom out.
• Make sure you have the condom nearby before you even start anything.
  
• Then for the condom… rushing to put on the condom is actually a bad thing… you want to make sure to open it efficiently and quickly (one quick rip of the corner), but stay horny all the while… don’t rush, don’t freak out, don’t think about your erection… touch your erection, or have her play with it, and then roll down the condom in a way that feels good on your penis.  STAY HORNY… not worried.
  
• Don’t even think about your erection… you can’t “will” or mentally force an erection.. it is a natural process that occurs on it’s own when your brain sends the signal… get horny, keep it all mental, and let your body to the work

I’m in great shape, workout all the time, and am involved in sports, so I know it’s not physiological at all.  In this situation, I KNOW I need to relax and I tell myself that, but I just couldn’t.  Luckily she’s very understanding when I just tell her I’m thinking too much, but I know on the inside she might think it’s her because she’s an over-analyzer, even though I tell her it’s not her and I love her.  I almost feel like if we didn’t use the condom, it would be fine, but I don’t know.

I know alcohol usually doesn’t help things, but in this situation, do you think it might be worth a shot (or two) to help relax me?  Obviously I wouldn’t go overboard, but I think it might help?

Yeah… a little bit though… not too much… too much alcohol will actually give you “whisky-dick” and will keep you from getting hard.  But a little bit is good.. once you get hard and start the penetration, a little alcohol will actually help you last longer.

Anyway, I’d appreciate any advice you have and thanks so much for your articles and help.  Maybe I just need to tell her I feel like I’m taking it too seriously and I need to start laughing about it.  But we’ve both expressed how we think sex is important in relationships, even though we love each other regardless, so it’s like there’s some underlying pressure there even if I say that…

-Travis

There’s always an underlying pressure… you’re going to have to accept that… once you begin having good sex (which you will), most of this pressure will be relieved.  You’re on track with the communication with her, and the taking it easier… don’t take it so seriously… have fun… sex is supposed to be pleasurable and fun… and not a task or duty… keep that in mind.

If you’d like a little extra help for making your erection harder, erection exercises work very well.  With this advice, and the penis you currently have, you should be able to go on to have a great sex life.  However, if you are looking to reinforce the physical part with a little more erectile “hardness”, erection exercises can work wonders… check out my guide to erection exercises here…

And when it actually does come down to the sex, make sure you are making your girl orgasm.  It’s all about the clit; remember that… the little love button. There are various ways to give your girl powerful orgasms… check this out.

However, you first want to make sure that you get over the sexual performance anxiety… then you can move on to the more detailed stuff.

Best regards,

David aka Mr. Manpower
The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men

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I received an e-mail today from a young man by the name of Twan… he is experiencing something that millions of men around the world face every day… and believe that they are the only ones facing the problem:

Sexual Performance Anxiety!

Here, check out his question below:

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Hi i have a couple questions reguarding sexual anxiety…

Ive been going out with my girlfriend for a year now. We originally tried sex within our first 4 months of dating (im 20 this was my first time) and it was fine (unprotected) then we went at it again I had a 2 sec moment and she was pissed unprotected once again!

So now we tried the condoms I four play and four play get fully hard and as soon as I put on the rubber I go limp… This has happened multiple times, and im starting to feel sick inside about it. Its ruining my relationship

I feel she is losing intrest, its making me want to avoid sex at all costs. Me? I couldnt even walk down a hallway behind a girl fully clothed without a bonner now I have it naked in front of me and cant get it up inside this constricting baloon they call a condom! Help me Please!

-Twan

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Mr. Manpower’s advice on overcoming sexual performance anxiety:

Hey there, Twan:

I went through the same problem with sexual anxiety when I was a young man.

 

A few things that contribue to sexual performance anxiety:

•Putting too much pressure on the situation
•Taking the situation too serious
•Trying to “will” or “mentally force” your erection to occur
•Building up to the event too much

 

To help alleviate some of the sexual performance anxiety:

•Take it easy
•Enjoy the sex… it’s meant to be enjoyable… have fun
•Don’t rush anything
•Get as horny as possible, as if no one is looking
•Don’t even think about your erection; it’s a natural function and will come along on it’s own
•Don’t rush to put the condom on, and keep arousing thoughts and feelings while you are getting the condom out

I know, sexual performance anxiety can become a vicious cycle.

One failed erection, then the doubt about your physical erectile abilities sets in, then you start thinking you’re the youngest man in the world with “erectile dysfunction”, you wonder “what’s wrong with me?  I’m sure this doesn’t happen to other men my age”, and then your erection fails the next time you try to have sex, and then the sexual performance anxiety builds to a level of obsession…

You start worrying… “damn, am I going to need to start taking medication at this age?… Viagra at 20?”

Let me assure you, I get this question every single day… young man after young man (from all over the world), positive that they have a serious issue with their erections.  Positive that they are the youngest man in the world with erectile dysfunction.

It’s all in your head… it’s all sexual performance anxiety.

Follow the above advice, and you should be okay.  If you need a little extra help, these erection strengthening exercises can reinforce the physical part: Erectile Dysfunction Exercises… Exercises for Harder Erections…

I also go more in-depth on how to overcome sexual performance anxiety in my guide.

Relax… everything’s going to be alright.

I wrote about my first experience with sexual performance anxiety, here…

Have a great weekend… and try not to take life so seriously!  Have fun!

-David aka Mr. Manpower
The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men

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I think most men have had this problem before… losing an erection while trying to put on a condom.

It’s annoying, and can prevent you from having sex with your partner, or even worse, having sex without a condom at all (I’m guilty of that).

This has to do with rushing the situation.  You feel that you need to rush to put on the condom so that you don’t lose your erection.

This is actually the opposite of what you want to do.

While you don’t exactly want to take so long that you can kick back and fix a lemonade, you shouldn’t rush the situation either.

This rush creates anxiety in your mind.  And this anxiety, pretty much a form of sexual performance anxiety, can cause you to lose your erection.

How to Prevent Losing your Erection while putting on a Condom

Before sex, make sure that you place the condom somewhere nearby to where the magic is going to happen.

Then you want to get as good of an erection as possible.  Foreplay, touching, oral, whatever you’d like, just get real good and horny, and make sure you have a solid erection.

Once you’ve fortified your erection, calmly reach for the condom and tear the corner.  Be careful not to rip the condom… but don’t freak out about it either.

Freaking out = bad for erection.  Calm = good for erection.

If need be, have your partner continue to stimulate your penis while you are opening the condom wrapper and getting the condom ready.

Once open, place the condom on the penis head, and softly roll it down.  Make it a pleasureable sensation when you put the condom on, almost like you’re stimulating yourself with the motion.

Then get down to action.

Blame it on Performance Anxiety

Sexual performance anxiety is the culprit for the majority of “erectile dysfunction” cases, especially if you’re young.  It has to do with rushing the situation, and fearing that you will lose your erection.  Replace your thoughts of fear and rushing with calm.

If you have lots of problems with sexual performance anxiety, I have a surefire technique of overcoming it.  Some erection strengthening exercises can definitely help by reinforcing the physical part as well.

If you’re erections feel a little weak, or are quick to soften, even if you are remaining calm (or if you just want stronger erections), these erection exercises can help.

For more information on my erection exercise routine, as well as how to overcome performance anxiety, click here…

Other than that, good luck with the jimmy hats!  Shouldn’t be a problem with a little calm and practice.

Best of luck!

-David aka Mr. Manpower
Mistermanpower@yahoo.com¼/p>

The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men

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These are fears that many teenagers and young adults are hit with when they first start having sex.

I remember the first time I had a difficulty getting hard.  It really freaked me out.  I had a beautiful woman in front of me, and know matter what I did, I couldn’t get hard.

I was convinced that I had erectile dysfunction.  Things went into a downward spiral from there.  I went into sex the next time after my dysfunction, and I went in with the mindset that I was going to test my ability to achieve an erection.

This is the wrong mindset to have when you are trying to get an erection.

Due to all the pressure I put on the situation, I once again failed to achieve an erection, and was now convinced that I was a 17 year old with erectile dysfunction.

This led me into hours of sweaty, obsessive and anxious searching for a solution.  During my research, I came across quite a few sources referring to sexual performance anxiety.  I began to see the light, and started to see that most likely I did not have erectile dysfunction.

I came across quite a bit of information on sexual performance anxiety.  Some tidbits of knowledge on overcoming performance anxiety:

• Do not even think about your erection, just think about the sexual act in front of you.  Enjoy it, and your erection will come along on it’s own.
• Don’t put any pressure on the situation…relax and have fun.  Pressure= bad for performance anxiety, Fun= alleviates performance anxiety.

This is a good start to beating that anxiety, and getting your strong erections back.  Another thing that definitely helps are erection exercises.  Besides kegels, there are a number of other erection exercises you can do to improve blood flow, and maximize the hardness of your erections.

For more information on these erection exercises, as well as an in-depth guide to overcoming sexual performance anxiety, check this out:

Mr. Manpower’s Guide to Erection Exercises and Overcoming Performance Anxiety

Have a good day, mate!

-David aka Mr. Manpower
The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men

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I received the two following questions yesterday…the first is regarding sexual performance anxiety, and the second is regarding natural penis enlargement for girth:

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hi david my names john ****** am 21 and i have known my gf for 8 weeks now and im ready to have sex with her i am a virgin this is the right time fr me and when we tryed to have sex it wouldent go hard at all and im so upset and worried i cant sleep or think straight i feel so usless hope u can help thanks

My response:

Hey John:

First and foremost, relax and get some sleep…when you don’t sleep well, you don’t think well.

You are suffering from sexual performance anxiety aka sexual anxiety…even I suffer with this from time to time…I address how to overcome this in my guide, as well as some erection strengthening exercises that will help reinforce the physical part of your erections, and give you more confidence.

One of my customers had a similar experience and wrote to me about it…I’ve added it as one of my testimonials; check it out:

“I wanted to get back to you to let you know the REMARKABLE success i had with your guide. The problem i was having was that as incredibly beautiful as my girlfriend is, whenever we would try to have sex, i just couldn’t get an erection and it was literally ruining our relationship. The love and trust was there but the intimacy was seriously lacking and i was afraid i was going to lose this amazing girl. 2 weeks after i read the guide from start to finish and seriously started putting the techniques into practice, i started seeing results. We still weren’t able to have sex but i could hold the erection a little longer. Exactly 2 months to the day i first started reading the guide, we went on vacation and I DID IT!!! Dude, i was able to sustain an erection long enough to have intercourse and it was amazing. My now fiancee and i have an AMAZING sex life and we’re very adventurous in the bedroom, in the kitchen, on the couch, on the beach, in the woods and just about anywhere we’re feeling up to being a little risky. As far as the oral sex goes, she now looks so forward to it that she tells me in text messages all day what she is going to do to me and when i perform on her i can bring her to orgasm every single time. Needless to say, anyone who is skeptical about whether or not your guide works NEEDS TO TRY IT ANYWAY!!!!!. I cant thank you enough david and you i owe you big time. Thanks again man and may 2008 bring you tons of happiness.”

Sincerely, Mike C
Los Angeles, CA

For more information on my guide to erection strengthening and overcoming all forms of sexual anxiety, click here: Overcoming Sexual Performance Anxiety

Its available for download there, too.

Thanks for your interest.

-David
Mistermanpower.com

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Hello,
i’d like to buy this book but i want to be sure that it works also with thickness. In fact i am quite long 7.5 inches but only 3 inches cinrcunference (less than 1 inch diameter). I don’t need anything that makes it longer, only i need to increase the width, can you help me??

Thank you

Ricardo K.

My response:

Yes sir, I can definitely help…natural penis enlargement exercises work for girth as well as length, and there are some dedicated only to girth…if you dedicate to natural penis enlargement for a reasonable amount of time, you can experience more than an inch increase in girth….

Thanks for your interest, and I’m attaching the photo proof.

Thanks!

David
Mistermanpower.com

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To learn how to make your penis bigger, including length, girth, and flaccid penis size, check out my guide to natural penis enlargement here: How to make your Penis Bigger

Just one chapter of Mr. Manpower’s Guide to Overall Manhood Enhancement, the Ultimate Sex Guide for Men.

-David aka Mr. Manpower
mistermanpower@yahoo.com
The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men

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Even I feel sexual anxiety when I am with a new partner.  Sexual anxiety, aka sexual performance anxiety, effects most people when they are having sex with somebody new.  It is not a problem unless it keeps you from achieving and maintaining an erection, or initiation a sexual encounter.

Some butterflies in your stomach are not a big problem, but paralyzing sexual anxiety that holds you back from achieving an erection, or even initiating sex, is a big problem. 

Sexual performance anxiety can also occur with partners you are more familiar with if you have developed a history of premature ejaculation, erectile difficulties, inability to make a woman orgasm, delayed ejaculation, and other sexual complications.

As I mentioned, a little bit of sexual anxiety is normal before your sexual encounters with a new partner, however if it persists, or has strongly developed over time, you need to put a stop to it.  Sexual performance anxiety can become a vicious cycle, with each performance reinforcing the idea that there is something wrong with your abilities.

I went through a tough time in the earlier days of my sex life.  I was convinced that I had erectile dysfunction due to my inability to achieve an erection with a new girlfriend, and I began to research on erectile dysfunction treatments like Viagra. 

However, an experience made me realize that my “erectile dysfunction” was really all in my head.  I began to expirement with this new girlfriend until I developed a technique for overcoming sexual performance anxiety every time…it has even worked when I was drunk, or tired, or stressed, etc….

I’ve further developed my strategy for overcoming sexual anxiety over the years…and it has worked in every sexual encounter I’ve had ever since.  Along with my guide to erection strengthening exercises, you will have a rock hard erection that will rise to command upon request…and will not fail you throughout your entire sexual experience.

For more information on overcoming sexual performance anxiety, along with my erection strengthening routine, check out the ultimate sex guide for men here: Overcome Sexual Anxiety

Throw away your erectile dysfunction treatments, my guide to overcoming sexual anxiety and strengthening erections will guarantee you a successful performance with any partner…just one chapter of Mr. Manpower’s Guide to Overall Manhood Enhancement

Peace, love and sexy time…..

-David aka Mr. Manpower
mistermanpower@yahoo.com
The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men

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I had some serious problems with this when I first started having sex…I would almost always lose my erection while I was trying to open the condom wrapper and put it on.  Before searching into erectile dysfunction treatments, I luckily discovered that this happens to many people, and that there are ways to overcome this.  This is caused by sexual performance anxiety aka sexual anxiety…and can be easily resolved.

Sexual anxiety hits most of us at one time or another.  You might be worried about what she thinks of your penis, if you are going to last long enough, if you are going to get an erection, if you are going to make her orgasm…there are many reasons why sexual anxiety occurs, and the worst thing for you to do with this problem is to worry…it creates worse anxiety.

When you are opening up the condom, you need to relax and take your time…maintain some arousal in your brain, so that you maintain your erection, but breathe well, open the wrapper up in one try, and then just place the condom and slide it down.  If you can’t open it right away, or if you put it on backwards (it won’t roll down, flip it around) don’t panic…this will create more sexual anxiety and possibly make you lose your erection.  Take your time.

If you continuously have problems achieving and maintaining an erection, your penis may just be out of shape… there are a number of exercises you can do to strengthen the muscles involved in the erection process, as well as increase the blood flow to the penis.  Not only will this give you rock hard erections that last as long as you need them, but as a side result, you will make your flaccid penis bigger.  In my honest opinion, this is a much more effecient way to strengthen erections than spending money on erectile dysfunction treatments like Viagra every time you want an erection.

I have written an in-depth guide to overcoming sexual performance anxiety, as well as an erection strengthening routine, that will provide you with stronger erections that last as long as you need them.  Forget erectile dysfunction treatments and medications, your body is capable of producing incredible erections…regardless of age. 

For more information on how to naturally strengthen your erections, as well as a sure fire method to overcome sexual performance anxiety, click here: How to Overcome Sexual Anxiety

Have a good one!  And drop me a line with any questions you may have.

-David aka Mr. Manpower
mistermanpower@yahoo.com
The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men

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In a search for stronger erections, I have tried all sorts of erectile dysfunction treatments.  Although I’ve never had too bad of a problem, I could always use a harder erection that lasts longer.

I first experienced some minor “erectile dysfunction” when I had a new girlfriend as a teenager.  It happened a number of times.  Turns out it wasn’t erectile dysfunction at all, but rather sexual performance anxiety.  This form of sexual anxiety was enough to prevent me from achieving an erection, due to the mental block it causes.

So during that time period I researched all sorts of erectile dysfunction treatments.  I came across exercises to strengthen the erection muscles, called kegels.  I thought this was the answer to all of my problems.  While it did give me stronger erections when completely relaxed, I still had sexual performance anxiety almost every time I was going to “perform”.

Upon research, I then found out the correct method for performing kegels, which most people don’t know about.  Part of it included learning how to only work the erection muscles, without including any other muscles.  I also learned the proper amount of time I should kegel for, in order not to over-train the muscle, amongst some other exercises to strengthen the PC muscles.

I also discovered a sure-fire method to overcome my own sexual performance anxiety, which I developed over a few years.  Anytime sexual anxiety comes up, I overcome it with this technique.

Other erectile dysfunction treatments I have tried out are the traditional medications, such as Cialis and Viagra.  And without out a doubt, they work as intended, and provide extremely hard erections that last as long as you need them.  They also seem to reduce the refractory period.

I also tried Enzyte, which worked to increase libido, and provide me with excellent erection quality.

Out of all of the erectile dysfunction treatments I’ve tried out, without a doubt, erection strengthening exercises are my favorite.  Along with the advanced PC strengthening routine, I also perform some exercises to improve the blood flow to the penis.  This provides me with extremely hard erections, that last as long as I need them (whenever I need them).  As a side benefit, it has also made my flaccid penis much larger.

As a compliment to my routine, I perform a number of exercises and activities to naturally boost my testosterone production, the male sex hormone, which in turn increases libido and erection quality.

If you are looking for the hardest erection possible, check out my erection strengthening routine.  It is just one part of Mr. Manpower’s Guide to Overall Manhood Enhancement, the ultimate sex guide for men.  Available for here: Best of the Erectile Dysfunction Treatments

Stronger erections are just a click away…guaranteed.

-David aka Mr. Manpower
mistermanpower@yahoo.com
The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men

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Most men experience premature ejaculation when they first begin having sex.  Due to sexual performance anxiety aka sexual anxiety, or not controlling their arousal levels, it is not uncommon that a young male ejaculate within the first minute or so.

The problem with premature ejaculation is that it can become a vicous cycle.  You ejaculate quickly, and then the next time you perform, you feel the sexual performance anxiety, and this alone is enough to cause you to ejaculate too soon.

And the problem is, if you ejaculate too soon, you will experience the refractory period, a period of “downtime” before you can achieve your next erection.  As you get older, this refractory period gets longer.

In my guide, I show you a number of ways how to last longer during sex.  The first thing I teach are ejaculation control exercises.  These address both the mental and physical parts of ejaculation control. 

Another secret weapon in terms of ejaculation control is the male multiple orgasm.  With the male multiple orgasm, you learn how to eliminate the refractory period, and maintain your erection after orgasm.

If you want to learn how to last longer during sex, my ejaculation control exercises and techniques, as well as the male multiple orgasm technique, will get you there.  For more info on my guide to ejaculation control…click here: How to Last Longer during Sex

I offer a 60-Day Money Back Guarantee, so if you do not see increased ejaculation control during that time period, just send me an email to mistermanpower@yahoo.com, and you’ll get a full refund, no questions asked.

Have a great day!

-David aka Mr. Manpower
mistermanpower@yahoo.com
The Ultimate Sex Guide for Men

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2009 is the year.  This is going to be the year; I can feel it.  This year I will continue to improve physically, mentally and spritually.

What kind of New Year’s resolutions do you have?  I have a couple.  Over the course of the last couple of years, I’ve used a natural penis enlargement routine to increase the length of my penis by a little over an inch and a quarter.  I started off at 6 inches, and I measured in at 7.3 inches last night….I aim at hitting 8 inches of erect length by 2010.  In the process, the size of my flaccid penis has increased as well.

The most orgasms I had in one session this year was six; I had five orgasms in a row using the male multiple orgasm technique (eliminates the refractory period), and released for a sixth orgasm.  This year I plan on increasing it to 7 or 8 orgasms. 

The longest I was able to perform was 45 minutes straight, without stopping.  I’ve developed some pretty incredible methods to last longer during sex.  While the male multiple orgasm technique is one, I have the physical and mental ejaculation control exercises.  This year I plan on surpassing that amount, and lasting 1 hour or more.

My name is David by the way, and these are my 2009 New Year’s Resolutions, at least in regards to sex. 

I have written a sex guide for men called Mr. Manpower’s Guide to Overall Manhood Enhancement, including how to make your penis bigger as a fully grown adult, how to last longer during sex with your significant other, natural erectile dysfunction treatments and exercises, how to overcome sexual performance anxiety aka sexual anxiety, or how to increase libido with natural libido enhancement exercises, Mr. Manpower’s Guide will help you with all that, and more….available for download here: Ultimate Sex Guide

So make it the best 2009 possible, and if I can be of any help, let me know.  If you have any questions, drop me a line at mistermanpower@yahoo.com

Feliz Año Neuvo!!!!!!!!!

David aka Mr. Manpower

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