Two signs of masculinity… Lasting long during sex, and having high testosterone.
REAL men are supposed to be able to last as long as they want during sex, or at least until their girl has had a few orgasms.
The other rule of being a real man… Having high testosterone levels.
Men with stronger testosterone production have more muscle mass, strength, higher libido, a deeper voice and more confidence. Manly stuff.
But did you know, in reality, the two have an inverse relation? Premature ejaculation is generally found in men with higher testosterone levels, and men with lower testosterone levels are known to last longer during sex.
But don’t worry… you can still be a man, have healthy T levels, and last long enough to get her off… but more on that later.
Remember when you were a horny teen in high school? Testosterone levels raging, with high probability of premature ejaculation?
Shoot… that was my experience at least.
From 17 on I was having sex on a regular basis. I lost it at 13, but that was just a fluke experience.
Back in my hormone-raged teens I had acne… I even had acne on my back. Acne comes from super high testosterone production. I had to use clearasil, but I had the hormones of a bull in a violent fury to make up for it…
But I also had premature ejaculation…
At that time I had a very sexy, and sex was so new and exciting to me… and I would cum quickly… almost all the time.
And it wasn’t just because her tight body and the novelty of sex. My hormones seemed to almost engulf my penis in a fire that would force me to shoot quickly.
As I’ve gotten older, the pimples reduced in frequency. In my 20’s I’d get a big zit once in awhile, but for the most part, didn’t have many skin problems. The testosterone rage has subsided. However, I still have healthy T levels (just did a checkup recently, still above average)..
…and I now have the benefit of being able last much longer during sex.
While I had to learn some mental techniques to delay my ejaculation in my 20’s — and they did the trick — lasting longer during sex comes much easier to me now (no oxymoron intended).
Also, having some stomach fat has been shown to help men last longer…. and while not pretty to look at, this sign of getting older at least has the benefit of better ejaculation control…
Scientific Studies Showing That Having Higher Testosterone Levels Is Related To Premature Ejaculation
This is not just my personal observation; a number of studies have similar findings.
For instance, in a study (¹) of 2,437 men, 25% had premature ejaculation, and 4% had delayed ejaculation. Testosterone levels were measured in these men. In the men with higher T levels, premature ejaculation was more prevalent, and in the men with lower T levels, delayed ejaculation was more common.
Inversely, in the group of men with premature ejaculation, there was a lower percentage of men with hypogonadism (low T), and in the the men with delayed ejaculation, there was a larger percentage of men with hypogonadism.
In the conclusion of this study, they propose providing testosterone to men with delayed ejaculation to help them ejaculate normally.
In another study (²), 41 men with premature ejaculation (defined as ejaculating in less than 60 seconds) were compared to 41 men without premature ejaculation, and the group of men with PE had higher testosterone levels on average than the men without PE.
So there’s definitely a link.
So what do we do… feminize ourselves — or wait till we get older — until we can feel proud of our sexual performance?
No… luckily, we don’t have to do either.
How to Last Longer In Bed Without a Reduction in Testosterone Levels
You want to have the best of both worlds, right?
High testosterone and infinite stamina?
Well, you can go the medical route if you have either low T or PE…
If you want to go the medical route, and have low T, get on testosterone replacement therapy (TRT). If you have premature ejaculation, get on an SSRI, a class of antidepressant that will delay ejacualtion…
Combine TRT and SSRI’s, and you’ll be a beastly concoction of manliness and stamina… But it may also be costly, require a prescription on a regular basis, and who knows how those two treatments will interact.
Most of us want to go the natural route to last longer during sex and keep T healthy.
Luckily, for testosterone, certain natural things can help keep your T levels healthy as you age:
- Sleep well on a regular basis
- Keep stress levels in check, find ways to alleviate stress. Cortisol (your stress hormone) if experienced without a break will wreck your testosterone levels
- Eat a fair amount of carbs and protein; don’t go too low on either
- Exercise on a regular basis – both cardio and weights
- Try your best to keep your gut under control
There are several other natural ways to keep your testosterone healthy…
When it comes to lasting longer during sex, learning to keep your arousal in check BEFORE it begins the exponential rise towards orgasm is important. Meditating develops a level of concentration that will help with this, as will solo “training exercises” where you monitor what goes on inside of you, both mentally and physically, and learn to extend your limits before ejaculating.
Concentrating on what it takes to make a woman orgasm also helps make your job easier, and done in a quicker amount of time. Go down on her and orally stimulate her clit for some time before penetrating, and when penetrating, try and rub hard against the clitoris with your pelvis on your in-and-out stroke… this will prevent you from needing to last 20 minutes for her to orgasm.
Use condoms as well… the female orgasm occurs outside of where the penis touches (on the clit), so while condoms may may numb things, this will work in your favor. Using condoms also keeps you from having to pull out — which kills the flow of sex — especially right when things are getting hot and heavy.
For a more in-depth guide to lasting much longer during sex all naturally, see here…
Have a good one!!
 Different testosterone levels are associated with ejaculatory dysfunction. J Sex Med. 2008 Aug
 Serum testosterone and gonadotropins levels in patients with premature ejaculation: A comparison with normal men. Adv Biomed Res. 2014 Jan