My Early Sexual Performance Anxiety Experience…

women orgasm My Early Sexual Performance Anxiety Experience...

When I was about 18 years old, I started dating this very sexy, young girl named Elizabeth, who went by the name Liz. Man was she sexy. Puerto-Rican, cute face, nice skin, gigantic breasts, thin waist, nice ass, and nice legs…. She must have been about 17 years old. Puerto-Rican women develop very fully at a young age.

It was also my first experience with sexual performance anxiety…aka sexual anxiety.

I went on a first date with her; for a while it looked like nothing was going to happen. It was a double date, with my friend working on her friend, and he wasn’t getting much farther. However, after a good amount of drinking (kids these days) the romance was beginning to blossom. After some making out and heavy petting (my friend was getting some, too), we decided to visit the hot tub by my friend’s apartment building. It was night time, there was nobody there, so we all stripped down into our underwear and got it. It was awesome; it felt like a movie.

So with this beautiful Puerto-Rican goddess bobbing up and down on my lap in the water, I began to get an erection. I must have had a full-blown erection for a few minutes, and we were making out, and I was enjoying those beautiful breasts in my face. So after a few minutes, I pulled her underwear to the side and tried to stick my dick in.

In my juvenile ignorance I failed to do a few things…

1) finger her long enough for her to get some natural lubrication (chlorinated tub water doesn’t do the trick) 2) WEAR A CONDOM, 3) take my time and enjoy the situation to the fullest (no pressure). 4) Drank way too much alcohol and smoked way too many cigarettes.  Overall, I think sexual performance anxiety was the culprit, though.

It was really hard to stick it in. Besides the fact that I did not know how to line it up correctly, it felt impossible to penetrate (not naturally lubricated at all). My penis quickly went soft. First time ever. I felt afraid, I started putting pressure on the situation…and thats the worst thing you can do….it escalated the sexual anxiety, and completely killed my erection.

We went to my car, because I thought maybe we were too close to my friend and his girl, and that made me nervous. It was even worst in the car…nothing at all. While she played with my limp penis she told me, “maybe you just smoked too many cigarettes”. Very sweet and understanding…so it wasn’t too bad of a blow to my ego.

So a few days later we tried it again. Her mom was stepping out to go grocery shopping and we were just waiting for her to leave, while watching TV. I was already trying to get myself horny. I was mentally trying to prepare myself. As soon as her mother left, we went into her room, that she so humorously called “the business room”….this put even more pressure on the situation. So I awkwardly fumbled around with her for a while until I got a semi-erection, and quickly pulled my pants down. By the time I put the condom on, I had gone limp… This time, not so patient, she said something like “again?”. This made it worst…no erection, and I almost ran home crying with my dick tucked between my legs….

My sexual performance anxiety was turning into a vicious cycle, and I needed to find a way out.

As soon as I got home I looked up erectile dysfunction. I was positive it was something physical. In a fit of desperation I looked at a porno to see if I could get my erection back, and I only got a semi (because of how nervous I was). For weeks after that I researched on erectile dysfunction treatments, as well as mental and physical techniques to overcome sexual performance anxiety.

I went back to an ex-girlfriend that I was always very sexually comfortable with and my erection worked like normal…this was confirmation that my erectile problems were all in my head.

Looking back, I can list everything that went wrong with my erectile situation with Liz. 1) I wasn’t very comfortable with her yet. It is much easier to get an erection with somebody that you are comfortable with, and even easier if you have some emotions for them. 2) I put too much pressure on the situation; sex is supposed to be fun and not a job. Instead of sharing pleasure, I made it my goal to have to get hard, and this can definitely create sexual anxiety 3) Not enough relaxed, sexual stimulation and excitement. 4) Weak erectile muscles and blood flow to the penis.

To this day, I research ways of improving erection quality with physical exercises that strengthen the erectile muscles and facilitate blood flow, and I practice my mental technique to overcome sexual performance anxiety, check this out…


-David Carreras aka Mr. Manpower
Mr Manpower’s Guide to
Overall Manhood Enhancement

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  1. Thank you so much for this,
    its funny i actually was laughing reading this, not because of your misfortune, but because it is so similar to the situation im in now..i have been looking around for a while trying to find someone who related to me and i found going to try to take your advice so i can also get out of my bad cycle..thanks again

    • I remember going through the same thing… trying to find ANY info on sexual performance anxiety and how to overcome it… and not being able to find it… only found info on erectile dysfunction, so I was convinced I had it.

      Good luck, you’ll overcome your problem.

  2. Gravatar not a problem says:

    yo not gonna lie, i fucked up with my girl the same way couple of times it was horrible so i feel yo pain man. I fucked her a bunch of times after but it recently happened again, when we tried doing it outside i dont if it was cause i was nervous or not but i just hope i can fuck her next time we meet….

    • Happy to hear you overcame your problem… if you overcame it once, you’ll be able to overcome it again.

      Yeah, most likely you were nervous when you tried doing it outside… just relax next time you meet her up, and you’ll get it up again.

  3. Gravatar Hot sexy Bitch says:

    I want you so bad

  4. Gravatar Funny Kid says:

    Wow. This is EXACTLY what happened to me. No joke. First time, nothing. Second time, semi hard then lost it. I actually cried when I got home I was that upset. I have been researching this for a few weeks. I am definitely interested in your book.

    • No prob man… I know it can be rough… mentally and emotionally exhausting…. but you’ll overcome your sexual performance anxiety. Thanks for your interest in my guide.

  5. Gravatar Edward zuniga says:

    I need advice. I date this girl i lost it to. i had sex with her so many times. She was my ex GF. We did it obviously more than 10 times (possible for anyone to be with for 3 years) then we broke up(issues) and she moved.

    Then a few weeks later i found another girl who is 3 times hotter, sexier and prettier. Me and her did it only twice (with a condom) but now that i try to do it with her again my penis goes soft again especially when i put the condom on. It only stays hard when i i have no condom and i dont want a baby :/ . I

    been staying up all night with her and i dont know if its stress, emotions, anxiety, nervousnes, pressure or all of them! Im scared to get soft again what do i do??? What are u doing mr manpower for u to overcome this type of situation? I feel the same like how u do about it feeling like a job and feeling the pressure of keeping the erection and anxiety. Should i take nacialis? I think thats what its called i heard its a vitamin for penis blood flow. Please help. Thanks and i wish u the best of luck i hope all of us having this problem can overcome this anxiety or ED.

    • Yeah… sexual performance anxiety.

      Have fun with the sex.. take it easy. Just work to pleasure her… get horny on her. If you like tits, suck her tits till you’re super horny… if you like, she likes it.

      Just get horny as possible. Take it easy. Relax. Enjoy it. No pressure.

      Your erection works, count on it.

      Try out the vitamin if you want, should help. But this problem is more mental than anything. It can be overcome.

  6. Gravatar Just a dude says:

    Hey i umm, ive tried to do it with my girl just like all of you have, but i get soft when i try to put on the condom, i think it was because she kept pausing me (shes a virgin) i dont know what to do, should i just keep relaxed? or do i tell her to stop pausing me cuz it kills my erection completly

    • just take it easy when she pauses you… don’t freak out and worry about your erection… stay happy and horny in your mind… and your erection will stay there.

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