How to Get An Erection When Nervous Before Sex

How to get an erection when nervous

All of us get nervous before sex… men and women alike.

Difference for women, though, is that they can get nervous and it’s no big deal. What’s the worst that happens; they don’t get wet? Synthetic lubricant will take care of that, or the lubrication on a condom.

On the other hand, as men, if we get overly nervous before sex, then we can’t get an erection… and then the failure of both parties to have sex all falls on our shoulders.

(We have a lot of responsibility as men when it comes to sex — we’re also expected to last long enough to make a woman orgasm, they have no such time limit!)

And the more we stress out about it, the less our chances of becoming erect!

So what do we do? If becoming nervous is part of sex, and becoming nervous kills our erection?

Heres’s how to get an erection when nervous.

It’s Okay To Get Nervous Before Sex — Accept Your Anxiety and Your Erection Will Be Better Off

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First thing lots of guys do when they can’t get an erection is they freak out… and now it’s even harder to get an erection…

Part of learning how to get an erection when nervous is to accept that you are nervous, not ignore it or try and push it away… know that it’s normal to feel this way, especially when having sex with someone new.

There’s no shame in this… there’s nothing inherently wrong with you.

I remember when I got hit with a bad case of “mental ED” in my late teens – I must have been about 19 years old. I was trying to have sex with this very sexy girl, and my erection just wouldn’t function. Made no kind of sense to me.

After trying time and time again to “force” myself to get hard (doesn’t work), we ended up having “sex” one day where I was able to achieve about a 50% erection and enter her. That’s the worst time to have sex, because not only does she not feel anything, but your penis isn’t “strong”… “fortified”… and is prone to getting “overwhelmed” by the amazing, engulfing feelings of her vagina… and you usually end up ejaculating sooner.

That’s what happened to me with this particular girl.

However, something interesting occurred that made me feel much better, and showed me I wasn’t alone with this.

I visited a friend’s house, and one of his friends was there, a guy who was known in the neighborhood as a “cool guy” and had his way with girls…

Thing about this guy was he was actually cool… didn’t try, nothing phony about him. If anything, he was very honest, in a refreshing sort of way.

And somehow the topic of sex came up, and out of nowhere he opened up about not being able to get an erection with a girl he was with… sharing all the same frustrations and negative feelings I was going through.

Then my friend opened up… he too had experienced the problem before.

This was pre-internet forum days… real life forum. And these guys (two high-school football players, manly tough guys) opened up about having issues getting it up before sex due to nerves.

We all shared, and I felt so much better after this conversation… and over the years, can’t count how many times I’ve overheard guys discussing similar issues. It happens to everyone… at least at some point in their lives…

Anxiety before sex happens… so.. you just need to learn how to get past it.

So how does all of this tie into how to get an erection when nervous? Accepting that it is normal to feel anxiety before sex actually weakens that very same anxiety’s “choking grip” on your arousal, and allows the “highway of horniness” to open up once again between your mind and your penis.

Build Up Your Arousal While Keeping Your Anxiety In Check In Order to Get an Erection When Nervous

Admitting that you are anxious not only weakens the anxiety, but it allows you to see the anxiety clearly and work through it.

To get an erection when nervous, you want to concentrate on becoming as mentally aroused as possible… Build up that arousal power until the anxiety no longer holds it back and your erection has no choice but to show up. Concentrate on what arouses you the most… and in layman’s terms, “get as horny as possible”.

“Use her”, to become aroused… believe it or not, she will like this. While you’re working on building up your arousal, she’ll be getting turned on and super wet. It’s a win-win.

Accept the anxiety, build up the arousal, and let your erection happen on its own. It knows what to do, no need to tell it.

Take Your Time and Have Fun – Sex is Not A Life Or Death Situation

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Sex is supposed to be fun, but we quite often take it too seriously.

Either we’re new to sex and don’t want to be exposed… or it’s been a while since we’ve had sex… or we’re really trying to impress a new woman…

I’ve been in each of these situations throughout my life, so I can relate.

And one thing I can say is, sex is not that serious… now, if you’re in a long-term relationship, and your girlfriend has never had an orgasm, that is a problem that should be taken care, but for a quickie with a new girl, there’s no need to take things so seriously. You have time to improve your technique later.

Joke about things… laugh… have fun… then when your erection is up and at attention, and you’re already inside and going to town, then you can go into “beast mode” if you’d like…

And slooowwwww down… there’s no rush. No rush to get an erection, no rush to keep an erection.

We incorrectly assume that once we lose an erection during sex, we’ll have trouble regaining it… as long as we keep our cool for the most part, we can lose and regain our erection as many times as we’d like. So remove this anxiety from your mind. And enjoy the build up of your arousal.

Don’t take yourself or the situation too seriously… and slow down, rushing won’t help anything… and that will relieve some pressure helping you to achieve and keep erections more naturally.

Physically Strengthen Your Erections for More Confidence in Your Machinery – And Better Understand the Mind / Erection Connection

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Performing cardio, strengthening your PC muscle, and keeping your vitamin D levels in a healthy range are all natural, yet scientifically-backed ways of improving your erection strength, regardless of age.

Improve your erection quality so you feel more confidence in your physical abilities. For more in-depth exercises to develop physically harder, longer-lasting erections, see here!

And while this is a good intro to what is needed to overcome mental blocks to achieving an erection, for more in-depth methods to get an erection when nervous, see here.

Have a good one!

-David Carreras aka Mr. Manpower
Mr. Manpower’s Guide to
Overall Manhood Enhancement

[email protected]

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Natural Ways Men Can Overcome Premature Ejaculation During Sex

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Unfortunately, many of the natural ways suggested to men to overcome premature ejaculation during sex are pretty ineffective. Ejaculation is a powerful urge… and as you probably know as a man, a very tough one to stop.

Luckily, I’ve found a few methods, and a certain “mind state” that guys can use to prevent PE during sex.

And as to medical solutions for men to last longer during sex, they work. That’s without a doubt. However, medications bring side effects.

SSRIs can help men overcome PE. I’ve taken them before for a difficult personal issue I was going through, and my ability to delay ejaculation skyrocketed…

However, the side effects made me discontinue taking the meds once I got over that hump.

While on them, I felt out of character… I felt anxious, tired all the time. I gained weight, and my libido was weakened. And the side effects became stronger as time went on.

So you may fix one problem, only to cause others…

How Well Do Medicated Sprays like Promescent with Lidocaine Help Men to Overcome PE?

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Other medical routes men can take to overcome PE and last longer during sex include Promescent (which contains lidocaine) and general lidocaine sprays, which are both anesthetics, meant to numb the penis.

When I first started out having sex (and dealing with premature ejaculation) Promescent wasn’t around, but sex stores in the area sold a spray called Stud 100, which was a simple lidocaine spray.

I’d spray it on my penis, then after 10 minutes or so, have sex. Me and a buddy of mine would pass the lend the secret weapon to each other when we were going to go see our girlfriends… simpler times…

Well anyway…

Problem was, I would barely feel my penis, had problems knowing if I was hard, and the chemical would rub off on the girl sometimes… I didn’t feel the sex at all.

Promescent’s key chemical is lidocaine as well. And costs much more than what I used to pay for that Stud 100… Not to mention it may be toxic to your sperm… but it’s most likely only temporary, with the lidocaine causing the issue.

Medical sprays are not the greatest solution to lasting longer during sex in my opinion, and I never revisited them after a brief trial…

One Solid and Proven Method Men Can Use To Overcome PE Naturally – Strengthening the Pelvic Floor Muscles

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There are times when I get lazy with strengthening my PC muscle with kegels, and in those times I really notice the difference in not just my erection quality, but in my ability to delay ejaculation.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve become much more familiar with the arousal process than I was as a younger man starting out having sex. Also, sex is not so novel anymore (but never gets old!), so I undoubtedly have much improved ejaculation control at my age.

But life sends me reminders…

If I don’t keep my PC muscle strengthened with regular kegels, and I have sex with someone new, I sometimes still suffer less ejaculation control than I feel comfortable with.

However, when I perform the exercises daily, and my PC muscle is in shape, I can last much longer during sex.

This regular maintenance is a necessity, especially if you’re naturally prone to PE.

And there’s actually science supporting the stamina improving power of a strong PC muscle.

In this study, men who strengthened their pelvic floor muscles (of which the PC muscle is one) were able to more than double the amount of time they could last… they went from next to nothing (less than a minute), to an average time of 146 seconds (more than 2 minutes)… I know you may be thinking 2 minutes is not a whole lot, especially when you’re trying to make a woman orgasm during the act, but it shows a major improvement in control.

Coupled with psychological ejaculation control insights, any man can learn to last longer during sex without needing medication.

Men Should Keep Vitamin B12 & D Levels in a Healthy Range in Order to Curb Premature Ejaculation Naturally

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There’s a reason SSRIs work so well to overcome premature ejaculation.

It is because serotonin levels are genetically tied to ability to control premature ejaculation, with low serotonin levels being a cause. So when SSRIs boost a man’s serotonin levels, your ability to control ejaculation does as well.

And B vitamins play a role here, here. Vitamin B6 for instance is vital in the creation of serotonin and other feel good neurotransmitters such as dopamine, with low vitamin B6 levels being tied to depression.

Closely related to B6 is another B vitamin, B12 which low levels of the vitamin have also been tied to premature ejaculation.

However, interestingly enough, Vitamin D levels — not even with any relation to the b vitamins — have also shown correlation to ejaculatory control.

While there aren’t any studies explicitly showing that vitamin B or D supplementation will help you last longer during sex as a man, being that low levels of these vitamins are so closely related to both life-long and acquired PE, taking vitamin B12 and vitamin D supplements within safe recommended ranges should without a doubt help, especially if you suffer from a deficiency in either one (which may very well be true if you suffer from PE).

Warm Her Up and Get Her Closer to Orgasm Before Entering – Shortens the Amount of Time You Have to Last

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The Taoists compare sex to a battle.

In large part it’s a battle within oneself of trying to maintain control and not spill your “life essence”, as they see ejaculation.

But just like in battle, one needs strategy.

If you bring a woman closer to orgasm before even entering her, then that makes things much easier for you when you start penetrating (and shortens the amount of time you have to perform)… especially when you consider that women generally take much longer to orgasm than men.

Get her warmed up… physically and mentally during foreplay. Stimulate all her erogenous zones, and stimulate her clit orally or manually before beginning penetration.

Luckily, your hand and tongue have no time limit… other than that you may get cramps in your fingers or neck, or your tongue might get tired… but man up through that… then you won’t have to last as long to make her orgasm… strategy.

Wear a Condom – Now’s Not the Time for Raw Sex

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STD risks aside, let’s be real… most couples at some point toss the condoms aside.

However, if you have premature ejaculation, having sex without a condom is just going to make the sex worse for both of you… from an orgasmic perspective. (And if you have really bad premature ejaculation, it’s a bad idea because you may shoot your shot before you’re ready, and risk an unwanted pregnancy…) 

Sure, both men and women say that sex feels better without a condom, but in reality, as long as you’re putting pressure on her clitoris, which isn’t even really in the vagina, than sex will feel good for her.

And right now, it’s about getting her off right? So give up the minor improvement in sensation provided by pure genital to genital contact for the much more intense and satisfying pleasure of orgasm.

And what feels better than having an orgasm while pumping inside of a woman? Nothing. And during raw sex you cannot do this. You have to pull out and shoot somewhere else… ruining orgasmic momentum for her and cutting short what you had going on leading up to that orgasm.

Also, with women taking longer to orgasm than men, then you may be pulling out just short of her orgasm in order for you to ejaculate.

Get smart… strap up, last longer, and get her off.

Train Your Mind To Keep Control Over Your Arousal & Ejaculation – a Powerful Method of Overcoming PE

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Regardless of age, early ejaculation can still be a problem for many.

It’s important that you get your mind in the proper state in order to last longer. One thing to note is that you want to keep your arousal in check early while penetrating, and not trying to keep burning flames of arousal in check right before ejaculating… get close to the point of no return, and well… it’s much harder to return to calm, in control, penetration.

Being able to last long during sex us a combination of not just keeping the PC calm, but keeping the mind calm. Don’t let your thoughts and visuals knock you off track. Keep your mind strong, and you’ll be able to delay ejaculation for much longer.

Concentrate on what gets her off, and not so much on building your own arousal, until it’s time for you to finish.

To better train your mind and body to last longer during sex without medication, see here: How to Last As Long As You Want During Sex, Naturally.

If All Else Fails, Don’t Turn Away from Medication… It May Be Necessary to Overcome PE for Men in Some Cases

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Doctors prescribe medications when the benefits outweigh the costs to you. And that’s how you should look at it.

You should consider your case of premature ejaculation. If premature ejaculation is causing issues in your relationship, due to an unsatisfied girlfriend or wife, then you may want to consider some medical help (if natural / psychological methods didn’t work for you). The side effects are a small price to pay for the benefits you’ll see in the bedroom and in your relationship.

Another option is on-demand treatment with certain fast acting SSRIs such as Priligy (dapoxetine) and Paxil (paroxetine), which have also been shown to help delay ejaculation even when used shortly before sex. While not as effective as taking the meds on a regular basis, something is better than nothing.

And for more on how to naturally last longer during sex, see here!

Have a good one!!

-David Carreras aka Mr. Manpower
Mr Manpower’s Guide to
Overall Manhood Enhancement
[email protected]

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Can’t Get It Up? How To Overcome Mental Erectile Dysfunction

howNothing more frustrating than not being able to get an erection when with a girl.

You begin to worry about a million things… “could there be something wrong with my penis?”… “does she think less of me?”… “will I have to take medication to get an erection for the rest of my life?”…

I’ve been there, and I understand.

You are not the only one experiencing this situation and feeling these feelings.  EVERY MAN, at least once in his life, has experienced this mental erectile dysfunction (aka sexual performance anxiety aka psychological ED)… many face it over and over, and never learn how to fully overcome it.

Happened to me in the early days of my sex life.  I had a girlfriend for a couple of years whom I NEVER had a problem getting an erection with.  During some time apart, I had sex with another girl, and COULD NOT GET AN ERECTION.  And the chick was hot, so it wasn’t that she couldn’t arouse me  Freaked me the fuck out, to say the least…

Long story short, through studying my emotions, researching/reading, and conversation with guys who went through it, I learned the technique to conquer this erectile dysfunction mental block once and for all.

How to Overcome ED Mentally… Beat Mental Block Erectile Dysfunction Once and For All

First of all, you should know that unless you are in your 60’s, extremely out of shape, or on high dosages of certain medications (certain antidepressants, blood pressure meds), any erectile dysfunction you face most likely has a mental cause.   If you wake up with hard morning wood, even if it’s only once in a while, your erection works just fine.

Also, don’t listen to that BS advice of “just be confident”.  That’s the worst shit you can do.  If you aren’t feeling confident, don’t force yourself to act confident.  On top of the anxiety you feel before sex, you’ll be adding to it some forced acting?  1) you won’t become familiar with the feelings you need to overcome, because you’ll be concentrating on putting on an act, and 2) we’re all humans… we all face anxieties, fears and worries.  No shame in that.

To reduce your anxiety and improve the chances of arousal kicking that blood flow into your penis:  Take your time, get as mentally aroused as possible (use her body to get as horny as possible… she’ll get aroused in the process), put the girls hand on your crotch once it has a little “arousal jumpstart”… there are also some “erection exercises” that work to give you physically harder erections.

If you want to conquer this problem today (and for the rest of your life), as well as achieve stronger, longer lasting erections, I can show you how… check this out: How To Overcome Mental Block Erectile Dysfunction

Have a good one!!

-David Carreras aka Mr. Manpower
Mr Manpower’s Guide to
Overall Manhood Enhancement
[email protected]

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Would a Doctor Recommend Mr. Manpower’s Guide?

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I was looking for an old article I had written on a third party site when I came across a random post from a few years back on a forum for folks with social anxiety, where a gentleman discusses my guide (Mr. Manpower’s Guide) and provides feedback.

A young man was experiencing ED at an early age, and looking for advice on how to overcome the issue.

Another man by the username Section_31 provided some advice, and part of it included how he purchased and downloaded my guide which helped him overcome his problems, and regain his self esteem.

But the most interesting part of his post to me was that he mentions printing off the guide and providing it to his doctor, in order to get his doctor’s feedback.

In this gentleman’s words:

“…I actually printed it off and showed it to my doctor, who took it home over the weekend for a read. he concurred the advice was sound and medically practical and said the testosterone boosting techniques mentioned were based on real biology.” 

I’ve had doctors purchase the book and provide me with feedback, but requested anonymity, I’ve had others purchase, but never get in contact with me after the purchase. But this is the first time I’ve seen a third party verify a doctor’s review of my guide.

Can’t deny it… I was happy (and proud) to see this.

You can find Section_31’s full feedback, here… It’s his second response.

Have a good one!

-David Carreras aka Mr. Manpower
Mr. Manpower’s Guide to
Overall Manhood Enhancement
[email protected]

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