How To Overcome Sexual Performance Anxiety Once And For All

Overcoming sexual performance anxiety

I received the question below from a man who’s experiencing weak erections, who is looking to physical causes for his erectile dysfunction, when in reality, I think needs to learn how to overcome sexual performance anxiety.

He feels that even though he’s conserving his semen in order to follow the Taoist teachings that semen conservation = more masculine strength, he still can’t achieve strong erections… In my opinion, while ejaculating TOO much can leave you lazy and without much drive, ejaculating on a regular basis keeps your penis healthy and normally functioning, as well as helping you keep your stress levels in check.

While some studies have shown that refraining from ejaculating can increase testosterone levels, it can come at a price… an out of shape penis. Everything in moderation.

He also has a couple of other legitimate concerns regarding overcoming sexual performance anxiety that I address below:

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Hi there

Just seen your site and I’m interested in your discoveries.

I have suffered from PE and more recently chronic ED. Even when masturbating. Ive followed taoist theories and refrained, but I always seem to end up in the same place. Its weird I used to have the opposite problem, I was hard always. Its like something has changed.

My biggest fear is I used a topical steroid on my dick for a skin infection and this has somehow made me impotent. All the theories however lead me to start thinking its psychogenic.

Anyway is there any weight in this taoist theory, or is it in my head,. Nothing shows up in any blood tests

Interested in ur thoughts..

-Darren

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Hello Darren:

I’ve changed my theory on strict conservation of ejaculation.

Regular ejaculation (2 – 4 times a week) is good for your sexual organ.  It keeps your erection function healthy, and the ejaculating on a regular basis keeps your stress levels low, and allows you to sleep well… which is good for improving your sex drive, erection quality and overall sense of well-being.

I highly doubt the topical steroid did anything to permanently harm your penis.  However, just thinking that there is something wrong with your penis can create some anxiety, and this is good enough to prevent you from having quality erections.

You need to know that your penis is healthy and working (regular masturbation will help provide you with this confidence in your “machinery”).  Nothing showing up on your blood tests is a great sign also.

Your problem sounds more like performance anxiety before sex… Having excessive fear or worry over anything will create sexual performance anxiety, and this  anxiety alone can keep you from becoming erect.

Some anxiety before sex is normal, and happens to everyone, at least to some degree.

Try and concentrate on getting as horny as possible in your mind… and don’t even pay attention to your erection.

Having an erection is a natural function, and doesn’t need you to mentally force it to happen. Let it happen on it’s own.

Try and force it to react, without the natural arousal stimuli taking place in the mind and body (while at ease, allowing energy to “flow), and you will have sexual performance anxiety.

Also, observe your anxiety… see it clearly… acknowledging it, rather than ignoring it, and trying to be Joe Cool when you’re really not feeling that way, will help weaken its grip on you.

Physically strengthening your erections and improving your erection quality with natural, but scientifically-backed, tips can help. Find a full list of exercises and natural methods to strengthen your erections in my guide, here.  For a more in-depth guide to overcoming the psychological block / sexual anxiety, see here.

Have a good one!

-David aka Mr. Manpower
Mr. Manpower’s Guide To
Overall Manhood Enhancement
david@mistermanpower.net

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Marijuana’s Effect On Bell’s Palsy/Facial Paralysis and other Nerve Damage

(Note: this is FAR from my regular subject of how men can improve their bedroom performance, but felt it was important to give people who came down with Bell’s Palsy some amazing observation I’ve made regarding facial paralysis). ALSO, there are no scientific studies behind this, just my observations. And wait at least 6 months after hit with Bell’s Palsy before experimenting with marijuana).

I came down with Bell’s Palsy in March of ’08. I woke up in the morning and half of my face was drooping. I noticed early in the morning that I was slurring pretty bad. I couldn’t close one eye, I couldn’t taste or feel my breakfast… and it was falling out of my mouth as I tried to eat.

I looked up the symptoms and thought I had a stroke.

Turns out, thank God, it was only a partial paralysis of my face. Approx 75% -85% of people make a complete recovery within a couple of months, often times without medication.

I was in that 15% that didn’t completely heal. Honestly, I’ve made a great recovery, and everybody tells me I have nothing. But when doing facial movements in the mirror, I notice… big weakness still on the left side of my face. Crooked smile…

Some women have told me it made my smile sexy… hopefully they weren’t just being nice.

The same obsessive researching I do on sexual knowledge, I turned it on Bell’s Palsy.

My research findings regarding Bells Palsy, Cigarette Smoking, and Marijuana Smoking

When I first came down with Bell’s, I wanted to do everything I could to make a complete recovery.

As soon as I had the symptoms I ran over to the doctor. He diagnosed me with Bell’s Palsy and put me on an anti-viral (acyclovir) and a steroid (prednisone). I jumped on the medication as soon as it was ready.

I ate very well. I ate to recover, too. Lots of meat (protein), fair amounts of carbs, lots of fruits and vegetables.

At first I cut out all smoking (weed and cigarettes), all alcohol (even though my doctor told “Please, have a drink… you need it more than ANYONE!”), I only stuck to real light exercise without straining my face, slept as well as I could…

I looked up how smoking affected Bell’s Palsy, both cigarettes and marijuana.

Due to a lack of studies on these topics, I had to rely on anecdotal evidence, which can still give some very useful information.

I came across one girl describing her mother’s Bell’s Palsy. She said that her mother came down with it many years before, and that she barely recovered. She said that her mother smoked cigarettes every day. That was enough for me to kick that unnecessary and harmful habit.

I also read a book online written by a man with Bell’s. At the end of the book he showed his face, and it did not look like a very good recovery… throughout the entire book he mentioned smoking cigarettes during his recovery.

So, if you have Bell’s Palsy, and you want your face back, then NO SMOKING CIGARETTES.

After a few months without a complete recovery, I began to painfully accept the fact that my face may never look normal again.

I also looked for anything that would help the recovery. I visited an acupuncturist twice a week for almost a year.

I drove four hours to meet with a Neuro-Muscular Retraining expert, and learned some advanced exercises to work on the weak facial muscles and help them recover.

After about 6 or 7 months, and a moderate recovery, I became a little stressed, frustrated, depressed… and bored.

I went out with a friend to eat, and on the way home I saw she had a joint in the ash tray. I was sick of this shit, so I told her to light it up, and I took a couple of hits.

I went into my apartment, and began freaking out. I thought that was it, my face was going to stop healing because I hit the joint a couple of times.

So I began my obsessive searching. I came across a couple of very interesting posts. This one man said he rapidly recovered from long-standing nerve damage when he started smoking Marijuana.

In his words:

Has anyone here used marijuana to alleviate the side effects of nerve damage and/or nerve regeneration after damage?

Two years ago, I had a gastric bypass operation. I suffered from some post-op aneorexia, and eventually I was numb to my chest, the muscles in my feet and legs atrophed, and I completely lost use of my feet/legs. I had a Bilateral Peripheral Neuropathy/myopathy combination.

It’s a much longer story than that, but that’s the basics.

I was in a wheelchair for 6 months, then began smoking pot.

I was up walking with a walker within a month, and could walk on my own within two.

I had shown no real improvements until I started smoking the pot. I’m just curious about others who maybe HAVE been scripted for neuropathy or similar…Scientifically, how does it work for nerve regen?

Pretty amazing stuff, huh? Check out what this guy wrote:

About 6 years ago, I suffered a skiing accident that left me with nerve damage on my entire left side. I made some recovery for the next 9 months, but was really down in the dumps. At that point I made the decision to try marijuana and man was it the right decision. In the next 5 years I am on the verge of recovering my hand and my leg is almost back to where it was. Similarly, research now suggests that marijuana stimulates the production of new neurons and nerves in the brain. There have been some reports in very recent research that marijuana stimulates the growth of gross motor nerves and inhibits the growth of fine, but that is only one study so far. In the end we will see America’s approach to marijuana completely flip. At least we can hope.

My Observations regarding the Positive Effects of Marijuana on Bell’s Palsy

As I mentioned before, I began to perform these facial exercises that the neuro-muscular therapist put together for me.

I’ve had a slow but remarkable recovery since then. It’s been 20 months since I came down with Bell’s Palsy, and they say that healing stops at around 12 months…

Just today a felt a new little twitch of nerve recovery on the part of my eye right next to my nose. And each time I look in the mirror after one of these twitches, I look a little more like me.

This recovery cannot be attributed to the exercises alone. The body’s innate ability to continue healing itself is powerful as well.

And then there’s the healing power of the mighty herb, Marijuana.

When I smoke Marijuana, I have the most amazing control over my face; I perform facial movements way more complete and controlled than normal.

I also make very deep insights into the workings of my face, how the muscles work, etc. Marijuana has kept me constantly learning, understanding, and remastering my face.

There have been weekends where I wouldn’t do my facial exercises at all, and I would smoke decent amounts of Marijuana, and I’ll look in the mirror after the whole weekend, and my face looks great. I’ll have better control over it when I go to the mirror.

After these pot sessions, I’ve had people tell me, “what’d you do? You look great?” stuff like that. It’s the bud.

I wish I knew how to get some studies started on Bell’s Palsy and Marijuana. But what the hell, all I’m going to do is put this information out here, and hopefully those who need it will be able to find it.

Other Advice regarding Recovery from Bell’s Palsy:

Begin Facial Exercises

Facial exercises have been clinically proven to aid and provide a more complete recovery of Bell’s Palsy.

This one man’s face was almost completely paralyzed for a year and a half, and upon starting the exercises at that point, began a steady recovery. Up to three years later he was still improving his facial movement, and new patterns of control began to appear.

Quoted from a case study on it:

On average, voluntary movements increased from 10% to 80% (Figures 4, E-H).

In a follow up meeting two years after completing treatment, the patient and his wife felt that function continued to improve although he no longer practiced the exercises.

The patient was extremely motivated and compliant with the daily home program throughout the entire three year course of neuromuscular retraining, and was extremely pleased with the overall result.

For more information on this man’s recovery, you can view the case study here.

For more information on how to perform the facial exercises, as well as more information on the proven benefits of the exercises, visit this site.

Visit a Neuro-Muscular Retraining Expert:

Your face is your face. You only have one. In my case I had an NMR therapist a 4 hour drive away. I rented a car, and took the trip, spending the night at a hotel.

Regardless of what you have to do, you should get to an NMR. Even if you have to fly, stay at a hotel, etc. … think of the expenses and time compared to improved chances of having a complete facial recovery.

Here’s a list of NMRs

Don’t start the exercises too early, and don’t force anything.

The most important thing is to get on the medication ASAP after seeing the symptoms.

After that, rest (try and take time off from work), relax, sleep, eat, etc., but don’t try and force your face to move. These forced movements can cause synkinesis, which creates incorrect nerve connection, like closing your eye every time you smile and vice-versa,

I would say the first 6 months just dedicate to natural healing, and then jump on the exercises. Patience, patience, patience…. and faith.

You should also good understanding on synkinesis and how to prevent it from occurring.

Strange connection between emotions and healing

There’s a strange, but scientifically proven, mind-body healing connection.

Sometimes, when I’ve felt my happiest, or been really excited about something, I began to feel the little twitches of recovery.

I’ve also noticed that it is of utmost importance to learn to relax your brain. We all have stress, but you must learn to ease your brain periodically. After times of prolonged stress, my face looks like shit.

Learn to breathe deeply, close your eyes, and picture your mind just loosening up and relaxing… you may experience some recovery right there.

Never assume you fully understand how a facial movement works

I sometimes think I know exactly how a facial movement works, and I start trying to perform it a certain way. And then I recover a little more movement, and I realize that I was off.

Constantly try to “reunderstand” movements. Never assume you know exactly how they work. This will allow you to gain a better understanding.

Also, this might sound weird, but try and understand this: picture your head like a 3d grid.

These movements are not 2 dimensional, like side to side, or in to out. Some of them require dynamic movements in a couple of directions (like smiling for instance, it’s sort of like an inward pull with just the corners of your lips, mixed with a simultaneous lift of part of your cheek, leading to a kind of inwards/upwards diagonal pull). Sounds complicated but improved understanding will come with time.

Extra benefit of Bell’s Palsy Facial Exercises… The development of potent concentration

Something about sitting there and deeply concentrating on these movements. It creates a powerful concentration, which spills over to improved abilities in a number of unrelated activities.

Vitamins and Facial Massage:

There’s a friend of my family who’s a neurosurgeon. He gave me the following vitamin regimen:

  • b12
  • b6
  • Vitamin C
  • Folic Acid
  • Vitamin B1

Being that he surgically works with nerves on a regular basis, I would assume he has a deep understanding of how they work, heal, what benefits them, etc.

I don’t remember the exact amounts, but I take them in fairly heavy doses. Try to learn the upper limits of some of these vitamins (most don’t really have an upper limit, except B6 I believe). And take a fair amount.

He also mentioned that massage was very good for stimulating the muscles and bringing blood to the face.

Hope all of this helps.

I will periodically add more information to this section as it comes to mind, or with any major insights.

Best regards,

-David Carreras

Mr. Manpower’s Guide

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How to Stay Hard While Putting On A Condom

how to stay hard while putting on a condomI think most men have had problems staying hard while putting on a condom, at least a few times in their lives.

The anxiety that pops up when opening up a condom and worrying that you might lose your erection is annoying, and can prevent you from having sex with your partner, or even worse, putting your penis in without any protection to avoid the embarrassment…

I’m guilty of not wearing a condom on a couple of occasions just to avoid losing my erection.  And with some pretty suspect women… luckily I’ve been checked, and I’m clean… but man, that’s a gamble! Never again.

Losing your erection when putting on the condom has to do with rushing the situation.

You feel that you need to rush to put on the condom so that you don’t lose your erection. This is actually the opposite of what you want to do.

While you don’t want to take TOO much time, you shouldn’t rush the situation either. This rush creates anxiety in your mind.  And this anxiety can cause you to lose your erection.

Take… your… time… and be easy. But keep your mental arousal high the whole time to keep the erection alive.

How to Stay Erect While Putting On A Condom 

Before sex, make sure that you place the condom somewhere nearby. You don’t want to be hard, and then have to go around looking for it.

Have it ready.

Then you want to get as good of an erection as possible.  Foreplay, touching, oral, whatever you’d like, just get very mentally aroused, and make sure you have a solid erection for a good bit before reaching for the rubber. You want to “fortify” your erection. The longer it’s been hard, the longer it will stay hard (generally, as long as mental arousal is present).

Once you’ve fortified your erection, calmly reach for the condom and tear the corner. If need be, grab your partners hand and put it on your penis or testicles so she can continue to stimulate your erection and keep it alive while you are opening the condom wrapper and placing it on your penis. Turn it into a freaky act… just another part of foreplay. Enjoy the suspense of what’s about to happen.

Once on your penis, easily roll it all the way down.  Make it a pleasurable sensation when you put the condom on, almost like you’re stimulating yourself with the motion. And if it’s backwards, don’t freak the F out… just calmly, flip it, then roll it down.

Then line your erection up, and get in there and get to work.

If You Continue To Have Problems Achieving An Erection Before Sex, Or Keeping It During Sex, You May Need To Reduce Your Anxiety

Everyone gets nervous before sex, especially with someone new. However, when the anxiety gets so bad that you can’t achieve an erection at all, or lose your erection during sex and have issues getting it back, then you need to take care of that problem.

Remember this, an erection knows what to do. You don’t have to tell it to get hard, just send a strong enough arousal signal.

If you need help overcoming sexual performance anxiety, I can be of help. See here: How To Overcome Psychological Erectile Dysfunction

Have a good one!

-David Carreras aka Mr. Manpower
Mr. Manpower’s Guide to
Overall Manhood Enhancement
david@mistermanpower.net

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Is 6 Inches Enough to Satisfy a Woman?

is 6 inches enough to satisfy a woman

If you are wondering if 6 inches is enough to satisfy a woman — or any other number of inches for that matter — than you may need a better understanding of the female sexual anatomy and how women achieve orgasm.

Although having a larger penis can help to provide more indirect stimulation to a woman’s clitoris during penetration, there’s no minimum length needed to make a woman orgasm… even a 4 inch penis can do it, with the right “rub”…

So yes, 6 inches is enough to satisfy a woman sexually. You just need to use it correctly.

If you are wondering how to satisfy a woman with 6 inches… I can help show you the way… Technique beats Size any day

In this hypercritical day and age, a 5 or 6 inch penis can be ignorantly regarded as small. In reality this is the average, with most men falling within this range.

I received the email below from a gentleman with questions regarding his penis size and the female orgasm. Our conversation helps illustrate what needs to be done to ensure a woman is satisfied, regardless of penis size.

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Hello David,

Couple of questions:

I read from your site that a women has 5 1/2 inches length in her vagina (Note: I’ve never said this; must have been a misunderstanding), does that mean all a man needs is a 5 1/2 inch penis length and he will completely satisfy all women?

Now the way I see it, it has to also depend on girth, what are the measurements for the average girth needed for a woman’s satisfaction?

You mention that it also depends on how a man uses his penis. If a man is clueless, is 6 inches big enough for a woman to still have an orgasm during sex? If not, what length of penis is needed in that respect?

Kindest regards,

Richard

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My Response:

Hi Richard:

All women have different size vaginas… however, the vast majority of women actually have vaginas less than 4 inches in depth.

It’s not like there’s a button on the back wall of the vagina that you hit with your penis and she has an orgasm… to the contrary, while G-spot orgasms are possible (with the G-spot located among the upper wall of the vagina, actually only an inch or so inside), most female orgasms come about through clitoral stimulation, with the clitoris actually located almost outside of the vagina.

With the correct techniques, a man with a 6 inch penis has a better chance of satisfying a woman than a man with an 8 inch penis who doesn’t know what he’s doing.

The road to a woman’s orgasm begins before you even take her pants off. A woman’s mind is so powerfully involved in her orgasm, that women have been able to “think themselves” to orgasm.

So get her calm, comfortable… and super horny…

Get into the foreplay, and perform some oral and/or manual stimulation on her clitoris before penetrating.

And take note… once you start penetrating, if you want her to orgasm, it’s not about “banging” her like you see in pornos (although many women do like rough penetration, and it’s good to throw in to switch things up), but real, female orgasm-producing sex is more of a “rough rubbing” into the the clit on the in- and out-stroke…

All of this will help ensure that a woman is satisfied sexually, and that your penis size is enough. It’s all about technique, and stimulating the clitoris is the way.

Have a good one,

David

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If looking to better sexually satisfy a woman in your life

Regardless of your penis size, with the correct techniques, you can easily make a woman orgasm. These advanced penetration techniques can help give her powerful orgasms, and quickly.

And as to your penis size, while 6 inches is enough to satisfy a woman, adding some extra size doesn’t hurt. These natural penis enlargement exercises can add some decent size (length and girth).

I include all of these techniques in my downloadable guide, Mr. Manpower’s Guide to Overall Manhood Enhancement. For more information on Mr. Manpower’s Guide, see here!

Any questions you may have, shoot me an email – happy to help.

-David Carreras aka Mr. Manpower
Mr. Manpower’s Guide to
Overall Manhood Enhancement
david@mistermanpower.net

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