A woman seems to need JUST A LITTLE BIT more penetration than you can give her in most cases, in order to orgasm. If this rings true for you, then you’re in luck – you’re going to learn how to train yourself to last longer in bed.
If you’re anything like I was, you orgasm, and your penis deflates, and she needed JUST a couple more strokes to reach orgasm! It’s unfair how a woman and man’s final point are so “mismatched” as to the amount of stimulation needed!
I know first hand, women can get very tired of not being satisfied during sex. Some may stay, some may think of leaving (and are waiting for something better), some actually do leave… and some cheat.
Cold, hard truth.
But when armed with the proper weapons to do battle, you can be the warlord running things…
First off, what is not the right mind state (psychological premature ejaculation causes) to last longer in bed:
Having masturbated quickly while younger doesn’t lead to premature ejaculation, as many believe, but it does cause an association between sexual arousal and anxiety. You need to undo this association as a first step to lasting longer.
Trying to “bang hard and fast” right from the jump… not allowing arousal to grow slowly, causes you to lose the control over your arousal needed to be a marathon man.
Rushing to the finish line, and THEN stopping RIGHT BEFORE EJACULATION, is a big mistake… once you reach that point of no return, you can stop for as long as you’d like… but your penis is not cooling off. Not until you lose your erection completely will it have cooled off significantly… and by then, well, you have no erection.
You need to learn to take it slow… from the start. You can soon begin penetrating roughly and quickly, but “keep an eye on your thoughts” so to speak, and keep them at ease… stay mentally strong.
As you perform ejaculation control exercises on your own, you’ll train yourself to last longer in bed… and then when you do apply your newfound abilities in bed… your girl will notice.
When she’s clawing you in the back like an animal, squeezing up against you and orgasming, and you’re not even close to finishing, you will feel like king of the world.
I used to be really bad in bed. I many a woman unsatisfied in bed in the early days of my sex life. My self-esteem was at an all time low. But luckily, through all the BS, I’ve discovered that there are actually some effective ways to last longer in bed. I’ve completely overcome my own premature ejaculation, and have helped thousands of other men all over the world do the same, with the help of my techniques.
I’ve helped men add 15 minutes to the amount of time they can last RIGHT AFTER READING my guide. I’ve helped men go from ejaculating before even entering, to lasting until their girl has had more than a couple orgasms. For more effective ways to last longer during sex mentally that ACTUALLY work, see here…
Have a good one!
-David Carreras aka Mr. Manpower Mr. Manpower’s Guide to Overall Manhood Enhancement
the ultimate sex guide for men… “male potency without drugs”
In the realm of natural penis enlargement techniques, there are two major schools: those who do manual techniques, and those who use weight hangers to increase penis size.
While extension devices and penis/vacuum pumps have also been shown to increase length, and girth (respectively), neither of them has as many followers as the manual and penis weight hanging “camps”.
Being that I’m open to all forms of natural penis enlargement, and figure most have to have their pros and cons, I gave a weight hanger a chance a few years back. There are a couple of weight hanging devices you can purchase online that are actually pretty “professional” looking, as far as penis enlargement devices go. Many of them have a made-in-the-garage look to them, but there are a couple of better put together models out there.
And being that I heard about so many men using these “hangers” to increase penis size (mainly the length), without any major claims of injury, I figured I’d give penis weight hanging a try.
I purchased one of the better put together hangers online for $60 something dollars. You attach it right behind the head of your penis, and it tightens to the shaft (you don’t want it slipping up and down your shaft!), and it has a hook hanging from the end. It is designed not to put pressure on the very important dorsal nerve bundle on the top of the shaft, right behind the head.
At first, I would hang a gallon water bottle with increasing levels of water, and I hung this from the weight hanger for about 10 minutes at a time.
I then started adding weight. I added 5 pounds to the hanger… then 10. I got up to 25 pounds in weight.
It was quite interesting, and effective, but I stopped penis weight hanging after a couple of weeks for a few reasons
I noticed a good increase in flaccid size when using the weight hanger, but didn’t really give it enough to time to see erect gains. I quite after a couple weeks, due to concerns over a couple of things:
1) I was single at the time I started doing the penis weight hanging, so privacy permitted these hanging sessions… but I soon got into a relationship, and having all these contraptions and weights in my closet (that you wouldn’t want a girlfriend, let alone a new girlfriend see) was quite awkward, plus I didn’t have the time to do it. It was a bit of a mission to set everything set up, too, and you needed complete privacy, which is not always easy.
2) Sometimes after hanging for 10 minutes, I took off the contraption, and my penis was a deep purple, and very cold/lifeless… I’ve beat the hell out of my dick with penis enlargement exercises, but even this scared me… I would slap it around and it would revert back to normal soon after, but I sent an email to maker of the device, who told me this was normal… however… at the end of this day, none of this stuff is really approved by the higher ups in the medical community, so this was a bit concerning.
For these two reasons, I cut my experiment short.
I prefer manual natural penis enlargement methods, because they work to increase both both length and girth, and can be done without the need for all the setup and privacy. I also perform my penis enlargement exercises in the shower, which is quick, easy and inconspicuous.
However, with that being said, many men have claimed to make big gains with penis weight hangers… so if you want to give it a try, I don’t see why not.
As to the manual exercises, I’ve learned quite a bit how to make my penis bigger with my hands, adding more than an inch in length, some good girth, and a much bigger flaccid size. For my guide to these techniques, as well as my own personal routine, click here…
Have a good one!!
-David Carreras aka Mr. Manpower Mr. Manpower’s Guide to Overall Manhood Enhancement
the ultimate sex guide for men… “male potency without drugs”
As a young man, I had a number of times where I couldn’t get an erection before sex, and it made no sense to me…
Beyond not making sense, it was frustrating, depressing, and caused large amounts of anxiety.
“What was wrong with me?”… I’d think to myself.
Did I have a rare form of erectile dysfunction that only hit young men? Had I injured my penis somewhere along the way? Was it when I was having rough sex and heard that *crack* sound? Did I have low testosterone levels or something?
I knew I wasn’t gay… I loved women too much, and was disgusted by the thought of anything sexual with men (those thoughts have never even entered my mind).
It was just ED mental block.
After a while I began to see I was BY FAR not the only man experiencing this problem. Somewhere around 19, 20 I began to open up more and speak about sexual problems with friends, no longer having to act like I knew everything (which is what young guys do when they don’t know anything about sex – act like they’re champs in bed). And I began to see that lots of my friends had experienced (or were currently experiencing) the same problem:
An inability to get hard before sex, without knowing why.
I researched on the issue quite a bit, and spoke with a few older guys who had more experience… And in time, I was able to develop the mind-state to overcome ED mental block, not just that first time, but every time. It took a little practice, and getting used to, but soon I was able to get an erection on command, even under the most stressful of situations.
Having sex with a girl when her parents could get there any minute? No problem… Cheating and overcoming the guilt built in with it? No problem…
Now, was I always a role model? No.
I’ve come a far way morally than in my younger days (I believe in Karma now, and the golden rule – life/experience instills that in you as you get older, unless you’re a psychopath), but I just want to point out that regardless of the mental stress of the situation, I finally learned how to get a rock hard erection when I needed it.
And now-a-days? My erections are stronger than ever… no more ED mental block… Just erections.
So how did I overcome this literal cock blocker?
First off, in order to mentally overcome erectile dysfunction, you need to admit that you are anxious. This helps you see the anxiety, and work through it.
Men give out the dumbest advice when it comes to overcoming this problem: “Just be confident”…
If you aren’t feeling confident, ACTING confident will make the situation even worse… now, am I saying you need to go into sex whimpering and shaking in fear No… just mentally “view” the anxiety. Detached from it. As if you are observing a movie. But don’t let it physically overcome you.
This lets you understand the anxiety better, and weakens it’s power over you.
The idea is to, on the one hand, reduce the anxiety as much as possible – which lowers the “wall” blocking off the arousal from reaching your penis – , and on the other hand, increase the mental arousal (horniness), which increases the strength of the arousal signal reaching your penis.
You don’t have to completely lower the wall of anxiety, having a little anxiety present is okay, and you don’t have to be EXTREMELY horny (although that part really helps) in order to overcome ED mental block and get fully hard. You need to do just enough of both to get the job done…
Now once you’re hard, it’s easier to keep an erection (just keep the physical and mental stimulation high, without rushing anxiously).
There are exercises for stronger erections that help, too. They will greatly improve your erection quality, allowing you to get physically harder erections, quicker, that last longer. For more information on these exercises for stronger erections, and a more in-depth guide to overcoming ED mental block, click here…
To show you you’re definitely not alone in going through this, let me tell you about one of the more memorable times in my life that mental ED messed me up…
ED Mental Block Caused Me To Lose The Sexiest Girl Ever
When I was about 23 or 24, I worked as a waiter at at a local “Alehouse” sports bar. While it was a very degrading job, the amount of women I got was higher than any other time in my life.
However, the girls I got were decent at best… nothing “off the charts” hot… couple of fellow waitresses, a few drunken patronesses…
But one night, I really outdid myself…
The Caramel Venezuelan Goddess
I used to walk behind the bar to get ice for the ice wells, check on the window to run food, etc. when one night I caught eyes with this caramel-skinned, dark eyed BEAUTIFUL goddess with some very nice cleavage, sitting at the bar with an almost as hot red-head, playing those little poker video games.
Just a fluke I figured… with the whole eye contact thing.
I walked by again, to get something else, and once again… eyes meet… but with intent this time.
Did she like me?
Did I have something on my face or something? She was way out of my league…
I went back to my section, and towards the end of the night, her friend (the hot redhead) walked up to me on the way to the restroom, and says, “my friend likes you… go talk to her.”…
I hadn’t had this feeling since middle-school… I had plenty of girlfriends growing up, but this was that new, exciting “crush” feeling that seems to only happen when you are a little kid, and less and less as you get older.
So I gathered everything in my gut (especially tough after a day of being degraded by rude/drunken patrons), and walked up to this girl.
I asked her what was her name, what was her sign (just kidding… didn’t ask her her sign), how was she doing, blah blah blah… and that I thought she looked good.
“Could I have your number?”… I asked.
She pulled the sexy, hard-to-get girl act and said she was “going to think about it”… although I knew it was in the bag.
I said “alright, you know where to find me”, and went on doing my finishing work.
Connection
She walked by me to go to the bathroom, and gave me a napkin with her number on it…
“Oh man!!! What a beautiful girl… I’ve really outdone myself this time.”
But a number doesn’t mean shit, unless you do something with it… I’ve gotten plenty of numbers over the years that turned into nothing.
In this case though, however, the dream just kept getting better and better…
Around 2 am when I was turning in the cash to the manager, a co-worker came up to me and said a girl named Diana was waiting for me outside….
……
I felt a sudden attack of anxiety/happiness/excitement/exhaustion/fear… all wrapped up in one. In the mindstate I was in (probably an 8 hour shift of putting up with a lot of BS), it was overwhelming. But as a man, there’s no option in things like this, other than to go for it!
I remember walking out of the back door of the restaurant and seeing her amazingly fine self “tight-rope” walking on a concrete edge, coming towards me in the night.. it was like I was literally dreaming.
We went hotel bar next door (where all the waiters would go after work – open till 5 am), and ended up drunk, making out in the parking lot, with my hands in her shirt feeling up those firm, supple tits with long nipples, and her hands were in my pants…
(Note: There’s no ED mental block when there’s no pressure on you to perform!)
We didn’t have sex, but man, I was in the clouds… my life was perfect (for the moment at least).
Our Sexual Encounters Progress
Turns out she had JUST broken up from a 4 year relationship, so I was a rebound fling…
But you know what, she was so fine, she could have just used me up… I didn’t care. I knew there was going to be pain in the future, but I was going to ride this out as long as possible…
But then things progressed… and it became more than just a small fling.
We didn’t have sex the first couple dates, but did have heavy makeout sessions, feeling on each other, etc. She’d continue to visit me at work, and we would go outside on my break, talk, kiss, feel on each other… we’d be on the phone till early in the morning… we were going on dates to places (other than bars! movies, etc.)
I told her that when I was with her, it felt like a drug, and she said she felt the same…
…But then there was the night we had sex.
ED Mental Block… You Son Of A Bitch… Whiskey Dick… You Dick… head.
One night, what started out as a boring date, ended up being a wild road trip to visit a friend of hers in a city about an hour north… on the trip we finished off a bottle of white wine, made out while driving, felt on each other, etc.
Up until now, I can say I was probably “taking it slow” because I was afraid… she was too hot. I didn’t want to mess things up.
But this night, we were going full speed.
We then went to a local pool hall, where a few of her hot-ass friends were, and we had a more drinks, shots… (she was incredibly good at pool, too, which in itself was a major turn-on for some reason)…
By the end of the night, I was very drunk… we ended up at her friend’s house, and were going to “sleep” on the couch.
I was so shit-faced, that I was hoping that’s what she actually wanted to do… go to sleep.
But she had different plans… no more pussy-footing allowed…
She started pulling down my pants, and anxiety kicked in… mixed with the amount of alcohol I had imbibed, I had all out ED mental block.
My dick did the opposite of become erect… it shrunk up… in her hands.
It must have felt like a baby dick (this was before I did penis enlargement…. my flaccid size use to be pretty small)… and continued to shrivel up, as anxiety and embarrassment ate me up.
She looked down at my tiny flaccid penis with a face of disgust, and told me, “why can’t you fuck me like that dog?”
Which at the time turned into an AMAZING emasculation… the dog was manlier than me…
She turned around with a face of disgust, and went to sleep… and just like that a strong attraction transformed into instant despisement.
The Horrible Aftermath of This Mental Erectile Dysfunction
The next day we woke up, and it felt like a nightmare had occurred…
I no longer felt that open connection with this girl… it felt as if a wall had risen up between us.
Deep down I felt like a loser, and I was WAY far from home, and we had to take a trip back to Miami together…. hung over as hell.
It was a silent trip. I failed, she knew it, I knew it.
My confidence levels were not enough to get over this. She was too hot, too in-demand, to have to deal with a weak lover.
I was given a brief chance, and I dropped the ball.
And it wasn’t just the liquor’s fault. Alcohol doesn’t help ED mental block, but I had (and have had) sex MANY, MANY times while completely drunk… as long as you’re comfortable with the girl, then alcohol is not enough to wipe out your erection.
She never gave me another shot.
She hung out with me as “a friend” after that… and the more I tried, the more I “stuck a fork in it”. It was done. I was a friend.
And it sucked.
How I Learned To Overcome ED Mental Block
In time, I learned quite a bit about the problem… I had to! I wasn’t going to let this happen again!
This is what I’ve learned.. to get an erection on command, when nervous/anxious, you need to:
1) Admit you are anxious – it is common for ALL men to get anxious before sex. It’s human nature, and you’re a human.
2) Don’t concentrate on “getting hard”, concentrate on “getting horny” – Work out the mental arousal, and your erection will come along on it’s own – it knows what to do
3) Take it SLOW… arousal grows when you are taking it slow… comfort grows when you are taking it slow… both of these are requirements for an erection. NO RUSHING, EVEN WHEN PUTTING ON A CONDOM.
There are also some exercises you can do to have much harder erections. An it’s not kegels I’m talking about. These greatly improved the blood flow throughout my penis and my erection hardness (duration). Click here for more on this guide to harder erections. I also have some more advanced techniques to overcoming ED mental block, if the above doesn’t help.
Does the urge to ejaculate come up, and there’s no stopping it?
Or do you stop multiple times, but the urge to ejaculate still doesn’t go away, no matter how long of a break you take?
Part of the the problem is, you need to learn to PREVENT this urge to cum before it even comes up, rather than STOP it once it has already gotten there.
Once you are at the “point of no return”, then you are locked and loaded, and ready to shoot… no matter how many breaks you take, or how long of a break you take, you have a bullet in the chamber, just waiting to be released…
You want to keep your gun in the holster altogether…
“OKAY, ENOUGH WITH THE METAPHORS”, you are probably saying… “what actual techniques can I use to stop the urge to ejaculate?”
I’m going to give you some deep insights into ejaculation control that I do not give away much… you are in luck.
1) Stay loose!
2) Circulate arousal energy!
Before I go in-depth into these techniques, understand that I am a man who once suffered (badly) from premature ejaculation. I remember being overly aroused during foreplay, then entering the vagina, and within a couple of minutes I was on the quick, exponential climb towards ejaculation… and once my penis was red-hot and ready to go, there was NOTHING I could do to stop the urge to ejaculate… but how things have changed….
Yes, getting older has naturally allowed me to gain stronger mental control over ejaculation, and not be so overly excited, but even without the aging process, even when premature ejaculation was at it’s worse, I found a number of techniques to delay ejaculation that actually worked.
And who wants to get old to be able to last longer during sex? You want to be able to do it when you’re at your prime and banging the most hotties possible!
On to the techniques to last longer during sex mentally / physically…
Stay Loose
It sounds almost like a contradiction, but while you need to keep tight control over your thoughts, as to not allow them to wander into “overly excited/aroused” territory, at the same time, you don’t want to be too mentally “tense”. Keep your mind calm. “Force it to be calm”, if that makes any sense… imagine it like a calm lake… don’t allow “rocks of arousal” to fall into the water, causing ripples… FORCE it to stay a peaceful, even lake… Meditation helps you gain this mental control.
Too “Buddhist” and Eastern for you? Well, this may be easier for you. While the ejaculation control knowledge above is extremely important, and should make sense in time (if doesn’t make sense now), then you should be able to get this down…
Keep your pelvis and pc muscle LOOSE during sex. Don’t tense this area up. I understand, during penetration, especially with positions like missionary, you will become slightly tense in the abdominal/pelvic region… but once again, “force” this area to stay relaxed as much as possible during penetration. This may seem especially difficult if you want to be able to last longer during rough sex, but in time, you’ll get it down.
And yes, the pc muscle as well. Strengthen the muscle while not having sex, but keep it completely relaxed DURING sex, unless you are going for the male multiple orgasm technique… squeezing the pc muscle during sex will actually cause you to ejaculate sooner, as it “primes the pump” (stimulates the prostate).
Circulate Arousal Energy
Ancient taoists believed that the pelvis/groin area was where a man stored his powerful masculine energy… if a man was not able to store energy here, he was not at his strongest.
Whether they were right or wrong about this, during sex, this “powerful-masculine-center” WILL feel large amounts of pleasure and arousal building… mind over matter once again. Envision this sexual energy dispersing… it is too concentrated. When it is too concentrated you will have the urge to ejaculate.
Mentally force the energy to disperse, and you will maintain better ejaculation control.
So just where do you “tell” this sexual energy to go?
Click on the image to the left and you will see the “circuit” of “stops” the sexual energy can take. While I believe (just my personal opinion), that the Taoists were kind of “shooting from the hip” when they came up with these points, it does make sense when you are having sex, and trying to “move” the energy around.
It’s a circular circuit starting in the “manly-pelvic center” (which the Taoists saw as a boiling-hot pot of water- good way to describe it), and goes into the butt area, then up the spine to the brain, to the face, and back down along the front of the body… back to the genitals.
I sort of follow this circuit, but mainly just try and disperse the built up sexual energy anywhere away from the genitals/pelvis/pc muscle… I do tend to take the highway of the spine up the mind though… and store some there.
Once again, sounds very Eastern and “airy” but try it! It works! And remember, do all of this stuff right from the beginning of sex, in order to maintain ejaculation control before it’s too late and control is impossible!
This info helps, but for some men, premature ejaculation can be a very difficult issue to defeat. If you need some extra help, I’ve written a guide to train you to go from a minute man to marathon man.
I know when you’re going through it, premature ejaculation may seem like an impossible problem to overcome, but trust me, it’s not… and although some of these methods may seem very “philosophical”, they will bring you real life results – you will be able to last like a pornstar! Nothing “airy” about that!
Have a good one!!
-David Carreras aka Mr. Manpower Mr. Manpower’s Guide to Overall Manhood Enhancement
the ultimate sex guide for men… “male potency without drugs”
